I think I can confidently say that he got help when I left him. I told him that I couldn't be with him unless he was in therapy. He had broken up with me, but I decided that this time was different, I wasn't going to let the cycle continue, and I stopped waiting for him to begin the healing process. Knowing that I was serious, I think, was a jolt to his system. It took him some time to realize 1. that I was serious and 2. that I was right, he needed help - and then he got it. And I was (still am) so proud of him.