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#237612 - 07/12/08 12:18 AM Re: Antwone Fisher- the Movie, A Rant!!! [Re: Still]
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You know what really bothers me about this movie. It's not the CSA aspects of the flick. It's the fact that they portray the Navy as what it is, a place that will use you and then lose you, and NO ONE even thinks about getting upset about that. Look at the actions of the officers around the main character. His Captain takes his rank, fines him and sends him for a psych exam because he defended himself against a racist. The shrink tells him bluntly that he only gets so many sessions and that he don't care what happens to the main character. But yet no one seems to get offended at the fact that THIS SHIT REALLY HAPPENS!! Don't get me wrong, the CSA aspect of the movie is important, but set back and take a look at what is happening to Antwone Fisher - the sailor.

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#237688 - 07/12/08 02:45 PM Re: Antwone Fisher- the Movie, A Rant!!! [Re: LN3(SS)]
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I'll be on the other side..... liked the movie a lot, the thing I see is that it was his story. It may not be completely accurate because his actual life wasn't filmed like a documentary while all the events happened. I don't believe that all the things you guys listed are intentionally bad in movies like that. I don't think that every movie that comes out has to speak dictatingly about a subject. I can understand how some of you would like for something like that to speak volumes for you in order to get the word out to the ignorant masses but the clueless people don't see everything in such detail like some of us can. On how they portrayed the military.... a lot of that was on point, it's not like the civilian world. I had a rough time when my command pushed toward getting me discharged, zero compassion or understanding but that was just them as individuals. I did have support from others outside my command who did have hearts. I shouldn't have been discharged like I was in the end, it was very hurtful thing that was done to me in order to protect themselves. I'm probably one of the only guys who would want to go back through Marine Corps bootcamp which I'll never get to do again.

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#237793 - 07/13/08 12:15 AM Re: Antwone Fisher- the Movie, A Rant!!! [Re: usmc97]
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I can't believe I'm hearing this! THEM AS INDIVIDUALS?!? I respect your right to an opinion, but I just can't see this one. When a military psychiatrist is willing to violate his ethical standards to say that a rape is a "longstanding disorder of character and behavior" and a command is willing to endorse that, it is NOT individuals. Antwone Fisher showed that side of the military, and people turned a blind eye to it because they chose to see the "feel good" aspect of a man receiving healing from his childhood abuse. I loved being a submariner, I loved being in Legal Departments at Pearl Harbor and San Diego. But, tragically, Antwone Fisher revictimizes people that were victims of military psychiatry and needs to be CONDEMNED as such!!

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#237834 - 07/13/08 10:30 AM Re: Antwone Fisher- the Movie, A Rant!!! [Re: LN3(SS)]
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For me the movie was help in my healing process/healing journey.

I was asked by my T to watch it for one reason only. I was to look at the strength and determination Antwone had at the end when he confronted his family members regarding his abuse. I am going to do the very same thing, confronting, soon.

Perhaps I am selfish for only looking at what the movie will do/has done for me.

Like USMC said above, it is his story, we all have one.

Ken

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#238112 - 07/14/08 02:48 PM Re: Antwone Fisher- the Movie, A Rant!!! [Re: KENKEN]
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My doctors where all Navy, I do not blame the Corps or the Navy for what happened to me personally. I was at the mercy of a line of individuals that chose to be ignorant and trust that what they were told was truth. What was done to me is different from what they did to you. I don't want you upset or anybody else. If it was a movie about you it would be completely different as so with me. It was just his story.

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#238131 - 07/14/08 05:04 PM Re: Antwone Fisher- the Movie, A Rant!!! [Re: awakening]
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awakening, I watched the movie, and was as impressed with some of it, because of the actual factual screenplay by fisher.
It is however a fairy story of someone making their abuse work for them.

Who? Will cry for the little boy! I will, over and over again.

It is too political to identify abuse in a factual manner, in a way that really shows the hurt of each little boy, but, they could never convey such a story to the public.

One good thing, is that is not fictional, even though, it can be seen as just that, but some of the fictional movies just cannot fit CSA cause and effect.

No two stories are the same, but if movie makers made factual accounts of abused kids in a series without the political correctness that society demands in what they watch, then, and only then, can we address the reality.

The majority of the films portray us as damaged goods, or even worse, future abusers

If only we had a voice, but, I guess they could not stomach what really is what life can be for an abused kid,

ste

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#239804 - 07/23/08 04:57 PM Re: Antwone Fisher- the Movie, A Rant!!! [Re: reality2k4]
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Maybe I was being a little vocal in my condemnation of this movie.
Ken said that his T had him watch it for one aspect of it only. My question after thinking about the responses I read is:

"How do I detach enough from the abusive aspects of the movie to watch this movie for the other parts that might actually be good cinema or helpful for me?"

For me, the abuse I suffered through Navy psychiatry, and the Navy in general, was incredible. It still resonates within me to the point where I have trust issues with my T and shrink.

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#239808 - 07/23/08 05:07 PM Re: Antwone Fisher- the Movie, A Rant!!! [Re: LN3(SS)]
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Brian,

Have you thought about telling your T and shrink that you have trust issues with them? What kind of risk to you think there is in having this discussion?

I haven't seen Antwone Fisher. As you describe it, I can understand why you have issues with this film. I feel a little guilty in that I may have helped feed your distrust. I hope I haven't done that.

Mike

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#239863 - 07/23/08 08:01 PM Re: Antwone Fisher- the Movie, A Rant!!! [Re: awakening]
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Registered: 07/05/08
Posts: 184
LN3(SS),


I have a sense of what you are talking about, LN3(SS).

My father was a manic and an alcoholic and we had constant contact with the psychiatrists responsible for his care (why am I tempted to say...and feeding here?).

They failed miserably. They failed him and the entire family. Which is why I have a bias about any therapist with more than a Master's level education. But, that's me, my stuff.

The first thing my current therapist did, that shocked me, was took trust off of the table. The first several sessions we took many things off of the table.

If a therapist suggests that trust is a prerequisite for therapy then, I'd walk away. Trust might very well be something that develops during the process...but if they tell me they can not work with me if I do not trust them, they've got more issues than Life magazine. Run away, run away.

And, it is an excellent topic for therapy...because trust is a funny thing. It can be very specific. You may or may not trust your psychiatrist to prescribe and dispense meds, but not trust them to hear your story.


\:D

CD


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#239882 - 07/23/08 08:42 PM Re: Antwone Fisher- the Movie, A Rant!!! [Re: awakening]
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Sorry, just now noticed this:

Originally Posted By: awakening
Larry,
are there ANY movies/films out there that stay true to the stories of CSA of a boy?

Well, yes, but all films will suffer from one defect or another. Several of the ones I have seen that I thought did a good (but not flawless) job on abuse issues were:

Mysterious Skin - The lives of two boys abused by a coach at age 8 come together again at age 17.

Celebration - Son denounces his perp father at a family reunion.

Vito and the Others - On the plight of street kids in Naples, with sexual abuse being just another part of their broken lives.

Eban and Charley - Issue of the abused boy who loves the perp.

Much love,
Larry

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