My daughter was raped when she was fourteen, I imeadiately found a counselor that was reffered highly by a friend. When I asked my daughter about it, she said, "No way!" So, I said, "It might get you out of gym class for the year. She said, "Sign me up!"
I don't want, in any way, to minimize the experience or the impact it has had on her life, but she was not comfortable talking to us as parents. Finding another adult, that she came to trust, had a lasting impact on her life. She is in her thirties now and has no reservations about the advantages of maintaining a support network.
I am not saying it is what you should do, I am just saying it worked for us. She felt we were being supportive...and we were not qualified to deal with the issues that come up in those circumstances. She had someone she could talk to...not her parents...that she trusted.