Boundaries are a crucial step in the recovery process. You stated you are actively reading a book on boundaries. I couldn't gather if you were reading the book I read.
Boundaries, (where you end, and I begin), by Anne Katherine. I highly recommend this book if you don't have it. I don't know if it is available through the MS bookstore. What I do know is it is available at hazelden.org.
The best revenge is living a good life. Hold your head up. Fight the good fight. After all you went through, YOU DESERVE IT.
Where Eagles Dare,
Rise above the storm and you will find the sunshine ~ M.F. Fernandez