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#238520 - 07/16/08 01:20 PM .
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#238524 - 07/16/08 01:59 PM Re: overwhelming feelings with boundary issues [Re: bardo213]
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Boundaries are vital. As a kid growing up, I had no boundaries. People did what they liked to me. I ran the streets wheneverI wanted, did whatever I wanted, got in trouble with the police a lot. No boundaries. Children feel safe with boundaries. They feel safe with "No, you can't do that" As far as abuse, my problem with boundaries that I have had is that I have too many boundaries now. Since I never had any, I now built huge, tough, boundaries around myself and won't let anyone in.

I'm glad you are gaining some insight. I hope you will continue to share so that I and others can learn too.


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#238533 - 07/16/08 02:46 PM . [Re: LW1527]
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#238536 - 07/16/08 03:12 PM . [Re: bardo213]
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#238542 - 07/16/08 04:49 PM Re: overwhelming feelings with boundary issues [Re: bardo213]
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Lynchmob,

Boundaries are a crucial step in the recovery process. You stated you are actively reading a book on boundaries. I couldn't gather if you were reading the book I read.

Boundaries, (where you end, and I begin), by Anne Katherine. I highly recommend this book if you don't have it. I don't know if it is available through the MS bookstore. What I do know is it is available at hazelden.org.

The best revenge is living a good life. Hold your head up. Fight the good fight. After all you went through, YOU DESERVE IT.


Where Eagles Dare,

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Rise above the storm and you will find the sunshine ~ M.F. Fernandez

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#238545 - 07/16/08 05:14 PM Re: overwhelming feelings with boundary issues [Re: 1islandboy]
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REVERSE BOUNDARIES? Man, I never heard of that. I know when I go to my T and if he makes one move towards me even by accident, I grab my backpack ready to bolt out of there. He is about 6 feet away and I remind him often to stay there. These are my boundaries. My boundaries don't have a gate, it's a drawbridge with a mote and evil trolls guarding it. I have the means to lower the drawbridge or not, my choice. I usually choose not to. MS is where I have attempted to lower that bridge. I am interested in what you told me, so I'll check into that book. Thanks for the info.

Lance


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