Bryan my terse reply IS a confrontation. I'm sorry you feel my aim generally is to confront you, because it is not.
I confronted you here, in this instance, because everyone has little fantasies and desires that won't withstand public scrutiny. LW happened to speak one of these desires that wasn't socially acceptable. But we all know that he's sharp enough to put these trivial fantasies in their proper place.
I sometimes used to wish my boss would fall off his chair. It's just mental play.
I thought you needed to be confronted about fault finding more than he needed to be confronted about a fantasy desire that was going nowhere anyway. I see no value in critiquing desires that he himself knows may not be filled. These desires amount to no more than mental playthings.
Edited by hogan_dawg (07/17/08 12:10 PM)
I can say unequivocally that the lie of "To truly heal you must first forgive" has derailed more victims than the abusers themselves.
Andrew Vachs, 2003