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#238194 - 07/14/08 09:57 PM Physical Manifestations
MarkK Offline
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Registered: 04/02/07
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Loc: Denver, CO
ok - so for the past few weeks T has been very good - which means of course, enlightening, frightening, and exhausting. all of which seems to speed up the negative side-effects of recovery - panic, anxiety, etc. job is getting ready to either move their office or sell out - they still haven't been real clear, so kind of looking for work, but don't really want to need to start over AGAIN.

family life just builds - more and more responsibilities - seems my 16 year old (son) always knows when getting in trouble will cause the most stress, lol. then there's the REAL stress between my wife and I....

all this to say - my back is killing me. every day it's worse. at first I thougth maybe I just twisted and pulled a muscle. but the thought came to me today "how else should your back feel when you're carrying around ALL THAT BAGGAGE".

... so ... is there truth in this "physical manifestation of psychological trauma" stuff?

anybody else experience anything like this?

M

... come to think of it - it's gotten progressively worse since I signed up for the October WoR ...


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#238196 - 07/14/08 10:04 PM Re: Physical Manifestations [Re: MarkK]
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Well, for me...uhm, YES!!!

I certainly can not speak for everyone...but when I started therapy, I also...it seemed like a coincidence at the time, later, not so much, started seeing my family doctor more often. He pulled out my chart, said, "You know, you've been in five times now this year. Whereas, before, I did not see you for years at a time."

So, I told him why. We talked about whether I was seeing a therapist. He asked me if I had any interest in meds. And, he also suggested a chiropractor. Suggesting that guys tend to carry their stress in their lower backs. Man, that was a lifesaver, I'll tell ya.


I think you are right, Mark...


CD


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#238197 - 07/14/08 10:06 PM Re: Physical Manifestations [Re: CDavid]
MarkK Offline
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Chiropractor - now THERE'S a word with it's own demons...


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#238199 - 07/14/08 10:07 PM Re: Physical Manifestations [Re: MarkK]
CDavid Offline


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Oh?


CD


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#238200 - 07/14/08 10:09 PM Re: Physical Manifestations [Re: CDavid]
MarkK Offline
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MD's are bad enough with their exams. But letting someone take hold of my body and move it at their discretion ...

nu uh. not me.

tried it - did NOT work. i'm always fighting them or they're always saying "would you please relax"

M


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#238201 - 07/14/08 10:13 PM Re: Physical Manifestations [Re: MarkK]
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Yea, very true...my therapist is still amazed that I do it. I know what you are saying.

Well, hmmm?

My wife and I started doing massages, with no real knowledge, just the desire to increase intimacy. We agreed, beforehand, that it would not be sexual, just intimate. It is pretty cool. And, although not quite the same...it sure helped my back.


CD


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#238202 - 07/14/08 10:15 PM Re: Physical Manifestations [Re: CDavid]
MarkK Offline
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My wife and I are lucky to hold hands...

Anyhoo - good to know I'm not crazy - men carry stress in our backs huh?

M


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#238204 - 07/14/08 10:18 PM Re: Physical Manifestations [Re: MarkK]
CDavid Offline


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Yea, that's what the chiropractor said.

But, don't give up! :-) How about a whirlpool? They are great for reducing stress.


:-)


CD


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#238205 - 07/14/08 10:18 PM Re: Physical Manifestations [Re: CDavid]
MarkK Offline
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you got a spare in your hip pocket?


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#238207 - 07/14/08 10:22 PM Re: Physical Manifestations [Re: MarkK]
CDavid Offline


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No...there's too much other stuff in there at the moment. All part of my effort to cut back, you know.

Hmmm?

Advil?


:-)


CD


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