I'm hoping for this to be noninflammatory food for thought that will not incite debate or resurrect points of contention but stand alone as something for all to consider. I have issues pertaining to the role of religion in my abuse. I have pretty much decided that those issues need to be worked on with a T who is suited to the job rather than here on MS.
By "suited to the job" I mean able to go beyond his/her own beliefs and act from a standpoint of what is right for me, and recognize if need be that that might be very different from what is right for him/her. I don't think we can expect other survivors on MS ----so many of whom are only beginning to heal, to have that kind of ability. Some, I'm sure, do have it, but I don't and I know that a lot of others here don't either.
I have done my share of ranting and making enemies the best I could but having thought it over, I realized I was putting my beliefs before people.
I decided that I would rather put up with ideas I disagree with, than be unsupportive of another survivor who is reaching out for help whatever that persons beliefs.
If my beliefs are criticized, then I would rather let the criticism stand uncontested than have that person bear feelings toward me that would make me unable to support that person in times of need and/or vulnerability.
It's more important to be here, even for a person who believes I'm going straight to hell, than to be right but unable to be supportive. Supporting a person who holds ideas contrary to mine does not mean I'm supporting the ideas it just means I'm willing to put the ideas aside so that I can support the person.
This is why I don't try to deal with all of my abuse issues at MS and why I am more and more avoiding the whole spiritual forum. Not that I think everyone should do that, but I personally have recognized in myself a tendency to get negatively triggered and then lash out and I don't want that to get in the way of what I'm here for.
To any I may have offended in the past I would like to say that you are first and foremost a survivor to me and whatever our differences in beliefs, I am here to support you now. I'll argue with you when we're all recovered.