BJK, I can't believe I'm not the only person who had this problem. Most of the reason I think my problems got masked so much during my degree is there were so many places I had to go and things I had to do, that even on my bad days, even feeling anxious, I didn't have a choice. Now of course that i'm a post grad, I'm much more left to my own devices, and facing the anxiety of meeting a new group of people is something that's been hard, ----- even though I know once I get started I can usually get on with people, ---- despite the fact I have the "Your worthless, their only Tolerating you" thing going on.
Hauser, being as most of the people I run into are students and thus don't have kids (though I have met a couple that did), I don't generally have that problem, but the "do you have a Gf?" has been a really painful one for me. I even get asked it a lot because people mistake the copy of "The Ring from Lotr I ware for a wedding ring and think I'm married (despite the fact I'm wearing it on the wrong hand), ---- though the idea of me being married is even more unthinkable than me having a Gf.
In the past few years, I've been responding in a very flippent and self-deprecating way to that type of question, as a way of generally hiding my dispare.