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#23436 - 10/16/03 05:13 PM Back to therapy tomorrow... nervous!
survive75 Offline
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Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 304
Loc: Massachusetts
Hey all... I go back to my therapist tomorrow. I've talked to her twice over the phone this week but I'm still nervous as hell to go back. She wants me to try regression therapy again, which is some of the hardest work I've ever done. But it is what helped to admit to the first memories I recovered.

Anyway - just the normal panic of "Oh my god, I have to face this tomorrow." Hopefully having posted and gone to chat here at MS will help make the re-entry to therapy a little easier.

Thanks, as always,
Sean

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"Even though I know/I donít want to know/Yeah I guess I know/I just hate how it sounds"

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#23437 - 10/16/03 05:26 PM Re: Back to therapy tomorrow... nervous!
fhorns Offline
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Registered: 08/10/02
Posts: 627
Survive,
I'm there too. I'll be meeting my new therapist tomorrow as well. It's only the second time we will have talked, and I'm not sure about her. She uses EFT, which is a method somewhat like EMDR, but really different. You don't re-experience like with most other effective therapies. Believe it or not, I want to work through these issues, not just erase them.

I hope you will have courage to go through it tommorrow. I need the courage to maybe even walk out on this one. She's good, but I am not sure how much of a bond we would ever be able to form. She seems too flighty, spacey.

I am jealous you have one you can trust right now.


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#23438 - 10/16/03 06:40 PM Re: Back to therapy tomorrow... nervous!
crisispoint Offline
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Registered: 09/24/03
Posts: 2154
Loc: Massachusetts
Hey Sean,

It's hard to go into therapy in the first place. And to confront the abuse again is scary. But you have more courage than you know in facing it and wanting to get better.

I'm thinking about you and wishing you well. I'm too afraid to try regression therapy myself. Not really sure if I need it, since the vast majority of memories came out (vividly) on their own. It sound frightening, but you will recover from it. You will get better because of it. You've already survived and that's quite an accomplishment!

Peace and love, Sean. My thoughts and heart are with you.

Scot

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#23439 - 10/16/03 06:41 PM Re: Back to therapy tomorrow... nervous!
Ivanhoe Offline
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Registered: 03/19/03
Posts: 1907
Hi, guys, are we all in therapy??!!!!!!! tomorrow??!!!

Kinda looks like that. I met my new T today. Looks good from here.

Bera, the guy who won the award mentioned on the opening page, says that almost all therapy works in spite of itself, sometimes.

I always reserve the right, "to bolt and run."

My new guy says that seeing what was going on when abuse happened, and understanding how my thinking was diverted from how I was experiencing life before, is main objective.

That giving me back my mind is goal.....doesn't that sound like heaven itself..........having one's mind back.

Let's keep in touch......tell me how it goes for you guys and I'll let you know how it goes for me. Well, maybe not everything, but you know what I mean.

Courage and strength,

David

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#23440 - 10/16/03 07:38 PM Re: Back to therapy tomorrow... nervous!
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
I know I've posted this before, but it's a bit of fun that's also surprisingly accurate.
And it was given to me by my Tutor on the Counselling course.

Dave


Quote:
IF YOU ARE GOING TO HELP ME.......

Please be patient while I decide if I can trust you.

Let me tell you my story. The whole story. In my own way.

Please accept that whatever I may have done and whatever I may do, it is the best I have to offer and seemed right at the time.

I am not "A" person. I am "THIS" person, unique and special.

Don't judge me as right or wrong, bad or good. I am what I am and that is all I have got.

Don't assume that your knowledge about me is more accurate than mine. You only know what I have told you, and that's only part of me.

Don't ever think that you know what I should do, you don't. I may be confused, but I am still the expert about me.

Don't place me in a position of living up to your expectations. I have enough trouble with my own.

Please hear my feelings, not just my words - accept all of them. If you can't, how can I ?

Don't save me. I can't do it myself. I knew enough to ask for your help didn't I ? Help me to better myself.


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Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
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#23441 - 10/16/03 11:36 PM Re: Back to therapy tomorrow... nervous!
Bill_1965 Offline
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Registered: 06/29/03
Posts: 1983
Loc: Flint, Michigan
Sean,

What isn't there to be a bit scared of? Change? Hard work? Reliving the pain you had to so unjustly had to live through? Building trust with a stranger with your most secret feelings and memories? Yikes. But, without going through it, it won't get better. The work will be worth it.

Hang in there and stay the course.

Fhorns,

That's the spirit. "Through it" is the only route to a life. You sure can't bury it and can't ignore it, the darn thing has a way of jumping on you when you least expect it.

Scot,

My first two tries at T were a complete bust, these were not my idea or my wanting. I never said a word to them. The first time I was 11 and was right after the first perp (although I kept drawing a picture of the perp over and over and over, to no avail). I finally realized on my own that I needed T and went right out and actively persued it. The fear was more of where I would be if I didn't get T, than going.

David,

Mine's not until Monday. I wish it was tomorrow, heck I wish it was today. I look forward to my T. My ex would ask me why I would go to T, when I was always sad or mad when I came home. Because a painful experience or feeling has been released, and it is no longer stuck in me, but on the way out. Clearing the way to be truely happy, Finally.

Dave,

That is so accurate. I love it and feel it. Thanks for reposting it.

Take care my brothers, you give me a feeling of belonging,
Bill

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Pain is Temporary; Quitting lasts Forever. - Lance Armstrong

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#23442 - 10/17/03 02:01 AM Re: Back to therapy tomorrow... nervous!
bowman Offline
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Registered: 04/19/03
Posts: 72
I've been seeing my therapist for about four months, and I still get wound up before each session. I don't think I'll ever get used to having someone stare right at me while I'm talking (or trying to talk) about this stuff for an hour. I hate it, but its worse without it.

Good for us for taking responsibilty and dealing.

Ken


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#23443 - 10/19/03 05:59 AM Re: Back to therapy tomorrow... nervous!
Leosha Offline
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Registered: 06/18/03
Posts: 3614
Loc: Right here
You have already had your appointment at the time I am responding to this, so I will just say that I hope it went well, and I am proud that you continue to fight to do well for yourself. You are doing good job. I wish you well.

leosha

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