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#23287 - 05/23/03 12:50 AM Jump bitch jump could be a trigger
Nathan LaChine Offline
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Registered: 02/22/03
Posts: 5381
Loc: Washington State
Ok I am sure this will probly cause some flack but o well. About six months to a year ago a women on the Narrows bridge in Washington was going to jump from it. She was up their all day held traffic up for hours and hours. After three or four hours some people started chanting "Jump bitch jump". After it was all over the mayor of Seattle stated he was appalled at the people on the bridge. I think if I was their and after hours of the police trying to talk he down I would have probly said "JUmp bitch jump" also. I feel if she really wanted to kill her self she would have done it in her hause. So I think she was just being a drama queen or for lack of a better word being a bitch! What would you guys have done if you where their? Do you guys think I would have been wrong to say "Jump bitch jump"?


lots of love, Nathan


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#23288 - 05/23/03 01:11 AM Re: Jump bitch jump could be a trigger
tone Offline
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Registered: 04/22/03
Posts: 41
Loc: Canada
i think you are being hard on that woman. i think you are right when you say that she wanted attention. Not everybody asks for help in the same way. That was her way, i think you could show alittle more compassion. After all a lot of us here and me in particular don't know how to ask for help. I have been so many times on the ledge of that bridge and nobody came to rescue me. It is one of the biproduct of television, where the person on the ledge is surrounded by hundreds of people and a long lost love comes and rescues her and they live happily ever after. Who knows what she was thinking , i hope you never find yourself on that bridge.
take care, tone

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#23289 - 05/23/03 02:06 PM Re: Jump bitch jump could be a trigger
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Registered: 04/13/02
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Loc: Wyoming
Nathan,
To be honest I would have joined you the chant, then after words I would have beat myself up for being such a bastard. Yes it probley was a cry for help, A BIG CRY!!!! Just keep in mind that the harder it is to ask for help the more "drama" one might cause in asking for it. But I would have been one of them chating, hell I would have made a sign. Ok guys Im not proud of the fact just being honest.
James

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#23290 - 05/23/03 04:08 PM Re: Jump bitch jump could be a trigger
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Guys Guilty too:

I dont know but does it have something to do with our SA that drives us to find those that are truly in need and join the Herd so to speak.

Is it our drive to appear and be part of the so called "Normal" section of society. I dont know. When I was younger I did a lot of things I am not proud of to prove my manhood to others. Manhood-what a bloody joke that is. It is too bad we do not have the wisdom of maturity and tolerance when we are young.

When i look back the people who hurt the most with the exception of my perps and clients were my youthful peers.

I did draw the line on anyone attacking fellow hustlers or those that sought belonging at nite around us.

Remember this post if we are ever in a position to possibly help someone

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#23291 - 05/23/03 04:53 PM Re: Jump bitch jump could be a trigger
JamesMichael Offline
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Registered: 07/24/02
Posts: 134
Nathan,

What's behind your question?

JM


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#23292 - 05/23/03 04:59 PM Re: Jump bitch jump could be a trigger
Sleepy Offline
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Registered: 10/08/02
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Loc: Arizona, USA
I would like to say that I would take the high road and refrain from saying anything. But nobody knows what they would do when a mob/group mentality kicks in. I remember watching a program on the Discovery Channel about the riots in LA in the early 90s. The program was about how people do things that they would never do when they're in a large group. For instance, people began to steal and loot stores when otherwise they never would steal on their own. When you're in a group you don't have to shoulder any guilt or blame. So it would be easy to say "Jump Bitch Jump" when there are others around. But if you were just a single person you wouldn't do it. At least I know I wouldn't do it then.

But I'm with Tone. This post is a downer. We all need to show more compassion. Well, that's my two cents.
Mike

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#23293 - 05/23/03 07:32 PM Re: Jump bitch jump could be a trigger
Les_Angry Offline
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Registered: 10/06/02
Posts: 195
I've heard that when someone wants to kill themselves, the way they want to set out to do it is indicative of thier problem and mental state. Like if someone does it in private it means one thing, and if they jump off a building it means something else, shotgun to the head, something else, etc.

When I told my t I was suicidal up till 10 years ago, it was really important to her to hear which way I was going to do it.

I think some people want to punish others, some hate themselves, some are in pain, some are angry, etc. etc., I'll bet Ken Singer or RichardNYC know what each one means, although I know it says on the main page they aren't online counselors. Who knows, maybe for some reason it isn't a good idea to make this information part of public knowledge.

Sounds to me like whatever someones's delema is that they have to do it in public and hold up traffic is not part of your specific trauma, and the alone kind of suicide might be, you should really tell your therapist about this, I think it would help your recovery. I think a good t will know more about the nature of your individual pain based on this post.

Peace
MO Healing


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#23294 - 05/23/03 07:32 PM Re: Jump bitch jump could be a trigger
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
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Loc: England Shropshire
About two years ago, I was in therapy and recovering, my wife and I were in Dublin.
One early evening a crowd gathered on the O'Connel bridge as a girl about 15 clung to a rail with a backpack full of bricks on her back.
The Police and all the services were there, divers were in the river and everything.

Some people in the crowd, mainly gangs of drunk lads, started to shout "jump - jump"

We walked away, and I don't know to this day what happened to the girl.

She still haunts me, and so does the thought that people could behave like that.

But I do understand the herd mentality of a gang of lads out on the lash, I've been there and seen it, done it.
And it grieves me to know that those lads, when sober and out of the group are probably decent guys.

Having the strength to be an individual is something to be proud of, and something we as survivors seem to achieve.

Dave

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#23295 - 05/23/03 08:01 PM Re: Jump bitch jump could be a trigger
Wuamei Offline
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Registered: 08/19/02
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Nathan:

You said you probably would have joined in the chant "Jump Bitch Jump!" (Evidently you're not the only one!) You didn't say you would have. You also asked if that would have been wrong for you to do. Maybe you were venting, trying to figure yourself out, whatever.

At any rate, I have to say this:

The way I felt yesterday during my panic attack on the road with all the crazy drivers in the pouring rain...

...if I had somehow discovered that the cause of all that was some woman acting like she was going to jump off a bridge...

...then I think at that moment I would have been at the least sorely tempted to yell "Jump Bitch Jump!" \:o

I'm not proud of that but I'm being honest.

And I certainly understand Nathan's feelings about this.

I confess at times I get very frustrated with people that play drama queen and make a big deal out of problems that not only don't seem that big to me but wouldn't to most people in the normal scheme of things. Stuff like my new Corvette got scratched or the IRS ripped me off or I have a flu
or the girl I've been dating for two weeks who is about my 50th girlfriend broke up with me or I didn't get that raise or whatever.

I'm not saying these things aren't important to that hypothetical person.

I'm simply saying that when I look at my experience & the experiences of men like us here & others who have gone thru such traumas often series of them, with all the attendant symptoms & dysfunctions, their problems, especially if that's the worst of them, don't seem like much to whine about much less kill yourself over. If that's what this hypothetical person actually has any intention of doing.

Now I have no clue what the problems were for the woman on that bridge. She may have had deep problems & been genuinely suicidal, and I hope I would have been sympathetic had I been there.

As some have said here who knows what we would do in a situation like that especially if we've never been in one before. Or even if we have. I haven't thank God.

I would like to think that in whatever condition I was in if this happened I would do what I think I would do at my best:

See if there was any way I could help, make phone calls or something, just pray & stay out of the way, whatever.

As Dave says that's part of what being a survivor,
and a thriver, is about.

OK I'm rambling.

Actually I'm finding this post very thot-provoking. And emotion-provoking as well.

Victor

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#23296 - 05/24/03 11:49 AM Re: Jump bitch jump could be a trigger
Thad Offline
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Registered: 08/28/01
Posts: 1752
Loc: Oakland, CA
My mother was suicidal - I still wince at drama from any woman - and a young friend of mine came to stay with us for a week when his mother killed herself so in one way I sort of lived through the aftermath with him.

I don't think any of us can know what goes on in a person's mind - the pain and even the stupid cries for help that this bridge incident might have been - but I know that there are those around her that would also suffer greatly if she jumped.

We are quick to judge others - their motives and whether they are worthy - We do it all the time on TV and with public pre-trial publicity - it's pre-judgement - prejudice - something I expected all the time because I was a fat kid who knew that he was a "freak of nature" and didn't deserve to be accepted - I was suicidal, tried twice - at age 7 and at 14 - were they a cry for help? I dunno - I know I did not think I deserved to live -

I wonder if some people judge others because they are afraid to be judged themselves. I often felt that my being fat was a public statement of how screwed up I was for everyone to judge - whereas others hid their freakness better. How we survive the hurt others do to us is a mystery - I don't think I would want to join the crowd, though - guess I'm rambling - ....t

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