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#230041 - 06/10/08 07:57 AM The Violence of Silence
JustScott Offline
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Registered: 01/27/08
Posts: 2568
Silence. The absence of Sound.
It can beat you down. Throw you to the ground.
It can trash your heart. It can trash your soul.
It can break you into pieces. It can make you feel like so many diseases.
It is used as an abusive tool. By those who over you rule.
Beating you down. Throwing you around.
Choking your voice. Strangling your Choice.
Silence is Violent! Killing the weak!
It's time for Silence to Break!!

BREAK THE SILENCE!!!


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#230043 - 06/10/08 08:02 AM Re: The Violence of Silence [Re: JustScott]
Letourski Offline


Registered: 03/15/08
Posts: 302
Loc: Canada
Excellent message and a universal truth at that. Silence is what keeps us from healing and recovering. The burden of secrets beats down to the point where we feel isolated and alone. These feelings are often perpetuated by the abusers themselves who use them as tools against us. Great write my friend. For so many years most of us hide our pain but thanks to the voice at the end of tunnel we grow in strength and courage.

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#230044 - 06/10/08 08:05 AM Re: The Violence of Silence [Re: Letourski]
Marinan Offline
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I hoep I never heal


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#230053 - 06/10/08 09:18 AM Re: The Violence of Silence [Re: Marinan]
Justintime Offline


Registered: 06/02/08
Posts: 50
I dont know about you guys but im pretty sure even if I did tell someone nothing would have changed except for things would have got worse at home i was afraid to keep quiet but I was even more afraid to speak up.


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#230055 - 06/10/08 09:24 AM Re: The Violence of Silence [Re: Justintime]
JustScott Offline
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Sadly for some, saying something did no good :-( I'm sorry you found yourself in that place Justin.


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#230056 - 06/10/08 09:27 AM Re: The Violence of Silence [Re: JustScott]
Justintime Offline


Registered: 06/02/08
Posts: 50
no dont say sorry. its ok. get what I got in that place because i wasnt smart enough or brave enough to get myself out of that place. I think what i meant was maybe if i told the "right" people something would have changed but I just was never around the right people or too scared to find them, if that makes any sense.


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#230057 - 06/10/08 09:28 AM Re: The Violence of Silence [Re: Justintime]
Justintime Offline


Registered: 06/02/08
Posts: 50
does that make any sense at all? god I sound so stupid when i try and write it out \:\( sorry


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#230060 - 06/10/08 09:36 AM Re: The Violence of Silence [Re: Justintime]
JustScott Offline
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No you don't sound stupid at all. You say "you weren't smart or brave enough" But then you say "I just was never around the right people".

It's not your fault! Really it's not. You were a kid. Your mind didn't work like an adults. How would you have identified the "right people"? Really, none of it is your fault.


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#230064 - 06/10/08 09:47 AM Re: The Violence of Silence [Re: JustScott]
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Registered: 05/02/05
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Scott,

What your poem stresses is that we have to break the silence in order to heal. Keeping the secret harms us in so many ways. The implication of keeping the secret is that it's our fault and not that of the abuser. When we stay shut up we feel like we are still controlled by the abuser and what he did. And if we can't talk about it, how do we avoid the conclusion that somehow the abuse was what we deserved?

Those are all such totally false feelings. Breaking the secret is a huge step for anyone to take, no doubt about it. But in the end that's where healing begins.

And in fact even those of us who feel we could never break the secret have in part already done so - just by coming here to talk.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
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#230068 - 06/10/08 09:58 AM Re: The Violence of Silence [Re: roadrunner]
Justintime Offline


Registered: 06/02/08
Posts: 50
what do you mean false feelings?


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