One reason it's more difficult for men is that we're only allowed one emotion: Anger. Anything like fear, helplessness, sadness or hurt are not allowed. So when we try to reach out, it is often in anger and that is very confusing to those who love us. When we learn to express ourselves in ways other than anger, we begin to heal. So, our task is much more difficult than women. However it's not more painful. Every case is more pain than one person can handle alone.
A life worth living.