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#227832 - 05/30/08 01:28 PM new to group and gay
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Registered: 05/13/08
Posts: 10
Loc: New York
I wanted say hi to the other gay men in this group. I think this sight has been a great resource and even better that gay men,transexuals and any type of man are able to find this great web sight to come together.

Also any advice on reversing the sexual triggers that cause a guy to look for simailr patterns to there abuse please post.





Edited by unitedfit (05/30/08 01:41 PM)

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#227838 - 05/30/08 01:46 PM Re: new to group and gay [Re: unitedfit]
Jarrad Offline
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yeah!!!! We heart gays!!! welcome!


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#227886 - 05/30/08 05:07 PM Re: new to group and gay [Re: Jarrad]
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Jarrad,

Did you mean ... We <3 Gays!!! Or... we Hart gays!!! \:D

Unitedfit,

I'll just say, Hi right back at 'cha! Welcome to MS, I think you have found a very supportive place. The guys here are some of the greatest guys I have ever met. Pull up a chair and stay awhile. Ask anything and I am sure you will get some great response.

As to your current question... hmmmmmmmmm

I will have to think about it, and get back to you.

TTYL,
Carl (Hart) \:D

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#227887 - 05/30/08 05:07 PM Re: new to group and gay [Re: Jarrad]
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I don't know how to give advice for finding similar patterns, but I know it's common. I hope you can find the answers. \:\)

Welcome United! \:\)

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#228099 - 05/31/08 11:44 AM Re: new to group and gay [Re: AndyJB2005]
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Welcome bro. Maybe just realizing you have that pattern is a good start because now you can remind yourself that what you are perceiving might be more that pattern than reality and you can take it with a grain. As for how to overcome it, probably need therapy for that.

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#228121 - 05/31/08 01:29 PM Re: new to group and gay [Re: blueshift]
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*shameless plug*

you are also welcome to join us for 'Mos on a Mission. Here is a link for with more info

http://malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=212332&page=3#Post212332


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#230569 - 06/12/08 12:53 PM Re: new to group and gay [Re: Jarrad]
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I say "Gay all the way! If you're gay (and 16-18 and cute) you can stay. Hip-hip Hooray for being gay! Who's gay? Oh! You don't say? Now this is gay day! Okay? Are you str8? I can show you the way! The way to be gay!"

Ok gues you can see I'm bored.

Welcome unitedfit.

Joey


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#230589 - 06/12/08 02:39 PM Re: new to group and gay [Re: JasonSmalls]
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unitedfit,

If you don't have a therapist, I'd recommend that you start looking for one. There's a section of this site on finding a therapist that is very helpful. There are good therapists who have worked with male victims of childhood sexual assault and there are not so good ones that are totally clueless about it.

Sexual triggers are something that it will take time to deal with. Knowing that they are triggers and what your past response to them has been is a good start.

Take good care of yourself and welcome to the site.

Steve

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#230714 - 06/13/08 10:30 AM Re: new to group and gay [Re: Stephen_5]
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Registered: 05/13/08
Posts: 10
Loc: New York
Thanks Steve for your response I do have a Psychiatrist and seems many time syou can get great advice or diffrent ways to look at things especially triggers. I hope to meet many men that want to learn and grow


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#231509 - 06/17/08 03:05 PM Re: new to group and gay [Re: unitedfit]
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last time i looked on the list it was quite sparse

not that many had listed themselves

glad u have a therapist

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