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#226864 - 05/26/08 02:46 PM Re: Do feelings have color? [Re: MarkK]
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Registered: 03/26/08
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You're still alive and that's a good thing.

It's like decking the block or shaving a head on an engine. The motor is never really exactly the same again. To prevent detonation, you have to cool it down somehow, swap the head gasket, or drive it differently. It won't be perfect, but it'll do the job. No need to toss the engine. With the compression raised, sometimes it'll run even faster.

Zyprexa or some other medication is a bit like adding methanol and water to your air stream - cools things down and lets the engine run without preignition.

Relaxation and doing things that make you happy is also like that.

You are anxious. You are depressed. This happens to men who have gone through what you went through. You know, some guys on here have gone through some horrific shit, and older guys than you and me, coming from that generation of guys who didn't talk much about their feelings. Some of them are real success stories who've become far more sensitive tuned in people than when they started.

This is hard serious shit man. It doesn't get any more serious. People here understand your situation. So nobody is going to bat an eye if you take a break or do whatever it is you want to do.

The flipping a coin thing won't work either. All you get from that is a whole lot of dead. And a tired thumb.

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#226866 - 05/26/08 02:50 PM Re: Do feelings have color? [Re: hogan_dawg]
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The problem with death is that you don't bounce back from it, and its forever. Feelings can pass.

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#226869 - 05/26/08 02:55 PM Re: Do feelings have color? [Re: hogan_dawg]
MarkK Offline
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Registered: 04/02/07
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Loc: Denver, CO
Originally Posted By: hogan_dawg
You're still alive and that's a good thing.

debatable

Originally Posted By: hogan_dawg
You are anxious. You are depressed. This happens to men who have gone through what you went through.

agreed

Originally Posted By: hogan_dawg
You know, some guys on here have gone through some horrific shit, and older guys than you and me, coming from that generation of guys who didn't talk much about their feelings. Some of them are real success stories who've become far more sensitive tuned in people than when they started.

another's success does grant local success

Originally Posted By: hogan_dawg
This is hard serious shit man. It doesn't get any more serious. People here understand your situation. So nobody is going to bat an eye if you take a break or do whatever it is you want to do.

so i've got permission. oh yay.

Originally Posted By: hogan_dawg
The flipping a coin thing won't work either. All you get from that is a whole lot of dead.

the problem being?

i'm sorry H_D. i know you're sharing because you care. i know you're being honest and real. i just wish i was in a place where i could receive it. but i'm not. truth is - i'm nowhere near that place.

maybe if i get thru this current mess i can come back and read your post and actually get the heart of it. i imagine that would be at least fair after you went through the effort of being real - i should go thru the effort of giving it an honest chance.

just ... right now ... ain't the time

Originally Posted By: GateKPR4
The problem with death is that you don't bounce back from it, and its forever. Feelings can pass.

Forever has a REAL NICE RING to it.
but don't worry - i'm not planning anything.
i just wouldn't turn down an offer right now...

}shrug{

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