but the big difference is I know that it wasn't where they were coming from. There was no "I'm going to hurt this person", knowing what was in there heart has made the pain much less when the hurt came.
That then must be the secret of trust. When the hurt comes, you hold onto the trust, not the hurt. You still believe you know the person's heart - you don't lose the trust because of the hurt.
I am so NOT there. I don't know if I ever will be. The people that hurt me, humiliated me, tortured me - were all people who "loved me beyond measure." And when I kept with the trust - the hurt kept coming back. I have no idea how you learn to let go of the hurt and hang on to the trust. I'm not even sure that it's even possible for me.
Or a postcard from Tahiti with dancing native hula girls
You ever get a postcard from me with girls on it - you can safely assume I have gone over the deep end and am locked in some mental hospital somewhere.