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#225761 - 05/22/08 11:19 AM *** Monday World Healing Circle Forming *******
Muldoon Offline
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Registered: 05/30/02
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Guys we are starting a new Healing Circle that is open to everyone world wide.


If you want to join us Please reply in this post or send a PM to the Healing Circle




Facilitators
Muldoon aka Tom
and others



Starting Date ...... in June
Mondays 2 Hours

Start Times
Perth WST 9pm , Tokyo JST 10pm , Moscow MSD, 5pm , London BST 2pm,
USA PDT 6am , MDT 7am , CDT 8am , EDT 9am



What are Healing Circles

A Healing Circle is a peer support group over the internet. Peer support groups can be a very powerful tool in the healing process. None of us are trained therapist. We are simply survivors coming together to share our feelings. Therefore, we all take responsibility for making the meetings as safe and supportive as possible.


How it Works

We use the chat room format with a few changes. One of the members of the group is the facilitator who directs the meeting. Only one person is speaking at a time. It's a therapy type chat setup where each member can ask for time to discuss their issues and receive feedback from others. Much care is taken to avoid people being triggered. In order to have a open and truthful discussion of the issues, once formed groups will be closed meetings. The circles are a chance to get a little closer to the guys who meet with you every week ,it's comfortable, after a few meetings you get to know what to expect and what each persons needs and strengths are .
Many of us didn't really know what to expect from a group setting so possibly some guys are hesitant to join. Please read more so you understand what the Healing Circles are about



Why it Works

The Healing Circles are valuable resource for everyone. We all get an opportunity in the circle that many of us don't get in the outside world - the chance to share something that is pressing against our hearts, and to get some realtime feedback from people who at some level or another understand and feel that pain or concern. In turn, we all get an opportunity to help someone who is hurting and needs our support. That to me is what helps make this community a good one.



Our Mission Statement.

We understand that the road is easier when not traveled alone and therefore the purpose of this circle is to provide a place of safety for men who as children or in adulthood have been victims of sexual abuse and or assault. Here, one can express his thoughts, fears, joys, or anger and know that his voice will be heard by others who will understand and validate him as a human being. Here, the focus is not so much on the past as it is on healing. Naturally the past and its abuse will come up from time to time but the purpose is to find a way through it to the healing that awaits on the other side. We will look at our journeys to see where we are on the road to healing and discuss things that work for us as well as things that do not. We will learn from the mistakes and successes of others and thus promote healing in our own lives.


Choice

If there is one thing that I have learned in my life it is that I have a problem. It is not my fault but the fact still remains; I have a problem. I did not choose to be sexually abused. The pedophile chose to abuse me. He did not ask my permission; he took what he wanted, leaving me wounded, confused and in pain.

So now it is my turn to choose. I can choose to stay here where I am and feel sorry for myself and try to convince or manipulate others to feel sorry for me too, after all, donít I deserve it. Or I can choose to seek heeling for my wounds. I can reclaim that which was taken from me. I can seek answers and relief from my pain.

Itís not my fault, but it is my problem. What I do about it is my choice. If like me, you are tired of being a victim, I encourage you to make a choice to heal, I invite you to join us here in The Healing Circle. Together we will travel a road that is not familiar to any of us but common to us all. We will support each other and lend a helping hand along the way.

This is not an easy road we travel and is not for the faint of heart but if you are serious about becoming a victor instead of a victim, by all means, join us. We are not super human nor do we claim to have all the answers. We are just a bunch of ordinary guys who want to use all the tools available to become the men we were created to be



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#226145 - 05/23/08 07:44 PM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: Muldoon]
Muldoon Offline
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Just wanted to let everyone know This Healing Circle is open to all, and guys you can be in more than one Healing Circle.


Tom

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#226152 - 05/23/08 08:48 PM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: Muldoon]
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Tom,

There are a couple of us from Western Australia active on MS from what I can tell. People who may be on the east coast will be 2 hours ahead of WA time and those in New Zealand will be another 2 hours ahead on top of that.

To put it up as a sample, a 6pm time in WA, means 8pm in East Coast and 10pm in NZ.

For me at last, I work weekdays and don't get home much earlier than 6pm. It would work better for me at 7pm WST, which would then make it 9pm EST, still suitable I'd imagine but then it would be 11pm NZ (that may be getting too late?).

Mornings on weekdays before work may not only start your day off being quite emotional but I donít see it working across 3 time zones and 4 hours difference.

Just my thoughts. Good luck in trying to coordinate a one-size-suits-all plan.

Bruce


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#226233 - 05/24/08 12:01 AM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: Grunty1967b]
Muldoon Offline
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Bruce do all evenings Monday - Thursday work for you. I think if we start with a good day and time for you guys we can find others to join us. I will work up a world time maybe based on 7 pm WA time. That way everyone else can see where the time would be for them. Let me know what evening works best for you.


Tom

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#226239 - 05/24/08 12:14 AM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: Muldoon]
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Loc: Perth
Hello Tom

As another west aussie, any time 7pm WA time onwards is good, the day isn't so important to me, I'll fit in with whatever is most popular.

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#226300 - 05/24/08 09:16 AM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: arronb]
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Tom,

Mon-Thur is fine also. Maybe Monday as it's the begining of the week and it's easier to not forget it. As the week leads on and you get distracted or busy (busier) it's easy to forget stuff you've planned.

Bruce


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#226324 - 05/24/08 10:03 AM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: Grunty1967b]
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Do we have anyone in Europe with Mid Afternoons free? This would be a great Healing Circle to be in. Also just want to let the guys who already have a Healing Circle, you can be in more than one HC.

Tom

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#228352 - 06/01/08 06:52 PM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: Muldoon]
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Edited by IMGOOD (06/01/08 06:53 PM)
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#229058 - 06/04/08 11:54 PM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: IMGOOD]
rdy2tlk Offline


Registered: 05/31/08
Posts: 7
Where can I find the dates and times for other Healing Circles?


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#229061 - 06/05/08 12:05 AM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: rdy2tlk]
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Loc: Elyria, Ohio
i am interested

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#229121 - 06/05/08 11:31 AM **Monday World Healing Circle Forming*** [Re: terpprm]
Muldoon Offline
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Guys one thing about the hours they will have to change one hour in Oct when daylight savings ends for some and begins for others.

Right now we got guys waking up in the middle of the night to come to the healing circles which are set up for the guys in North America . I am hoping that this Healing Circle will be able to fill a need for our other brother world wide and those like me who works afternoons.

Guys spend the word so we can get a few more guys for this Healing Circle.

Thanks
Tom

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#230187 - 06/10/08 08:24 PM Re: *** Monday World Healing Circle Forming ******* [Re: Muldoon]
Sans Logos Offline
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count me in tom; if nothing comes up in my job, i will be in the chat room prior to 9am

thanks, ron

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#230548 - 06/12/08 10:40 AM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: terpprm]
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I'd like to get in on this 2! Don't know about first thing in the AM though..stirs up stuff I don't want to begin the day with.

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#231076 - 06/15/08 01:06 AM Re: *** Monday World Healing Circle Forming ******* [Re: Muldoon]
charles law Offline


Registered: 06/04/08
Posts: 28
Loc: perth australia
hi new here and I would like to join so how do I sign up or I just come in at the times its on?
auwarrior


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#231138 - 06/15/08 12:27 PM Re: *** Monday World Healing Circle Forming ******* [Re: charles law]
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Registered: 05/23/08
Posts: 10
I will send you out a PM with info. Looking forward to meeting you on Monday.

Tom
For the HC


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#231284 - 06/16/08 10:52 AM Re: *** Monday World Healing Circle Forming ******* [Re: Healing Circle]
charles law Offline


Registered: 06/04/08
Posts: 28
Loc: perth australia
hi I am lost sorry are you still here?


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#231286 - 06/16/08 11:06 AM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: terpprm]
jaa Offline
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Registered: 10/17/07
Posts: 69
Loc: Rhode Island
I would like to join, please.

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#231320 - 06/16/08 03:11 PM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: jaa]
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I would like to join this. I've needed this for so long. Well, I've been in quiet desperation. Feeling pain isn't fun, but living there by choice is even uglier.

Count me in. 9AM (EST)on Mondays will work fine. I'll just let my boss (who is in therapy herself) know that I've got to go to mine.


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#232563 - 06/22/08 01:23 PM Re: *** Monday World Healing Circle Forming ******* [Re: Muldoon]
LN3(SS) Offline
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Registered: 06/20/08
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Loc: MD
New to site, but have heard about Healing Circle and would like to join this one. Please consider me for joining this one. How do I join? Start date, etc?


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#232722 - 06/23/08 05:19 AM Re: *** Monday World Healing Circle Forming ****** [Re: LN3(SS)]
Muldoon Offline
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Hi you can start today at 8am CDT. I will send you some information in a PM. See your later this morning.

Tom

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#234416 - 06/29/08 09:19 AM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: terpprm]
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Registered: 03/26/08
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I'm interested too.

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#238297 - 07/15/08 11:06 AM Re: *** Monday World Healing Circle Forming ****** [Re: Muldoon]
michael banks Offline


Registered: 06/12/08
Posts: 1755
Loc: Mojave Desert, Ca
is it to late to join?

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#238385 - 07/15/08 07:59 PM Re: *** Monday World Healing Circle Forming ****** [Re: michael banks]
Muldoon Offline
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Michael I will add your name to the list. I will be sending you some more information in a day or two. See you next Monday.


Tom

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#241246 - 07/30/08 12:01 AM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: terpprm]
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Registered: 07/28/08
Posts: 15
Loc: Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
hey, i'd like to join up but what are the times for eastern standard time?

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#241366 - 07/30/08 01:45 PM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: Cobain28]
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oops, sorry



Edited by Sans Logos (07/30/08 01:46 PM)
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#245247 - 08/17/08 07:31 PM Re: ***Healing Circle for Down Under******* [Re: terpprm]
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Registered: 08/02/08
Posts: 45
Loc: Greenville, SC
tom,
i am interested in a HC that would meet on sunday evenings same time

thanks, bill

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#245296 - 08/17/08 10:48 PM Re: *** Monday World Healing Circle Forming ****** [Re: Muldoon]
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i can see you then

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