THIS IS A FORUM FOR MEMBERS OF MS WHO CONSIDER THEMSELVES AT RISK SURVIVORS AS DESCRIBED BELOW:
I'll let the statement contained in the forum entrance speak for itself:
"MEMBERS (At risk survivors)
This forum is for survivors who have done inappropriate, harmful, or abusive behavior to others in their childhood or adolescence, or have acted out sexually through certain sexual behaviors, such as compulsive masturbation, promiscuous consensual relationships, internet pornography, book store acting out, etc. We intend to provide a safe place to explore the underlying causes and find resources and alternatives to these behaviors, as well as better understand how childhood abuse has affected our sense of sexuality and sexual behaviors. It will provide a place to talk about what you may have done as a child or teen in reaction to your sexual abuse.
For those who have acted out sexually in adulthood or are struggling with feelings or thoughts about sexually acting out with children or with vulnerable adolescents or adults (behaviors that would be considered illegal), we urge you to check out Stop It Now! [a site, to which these words link, that is working with us] where a trained professional can talk with you confidentially about your circumstances and discuss your options, possible resources, and next steps for you so that you and everyone in your life can live safely."
Yes, this forum is in the members area and is for members only. But believe me if you need a safe place to talk about only the kinds of struggles mentioned above (and what goes into this forum stays there!), without concerns of triggering others in this public or in any other forum, then this forum alone is worth you membership fee or whatever sweat equity you can put into MS!
I want to thank our MS leadership, especially Fred and Ken Singer; believe me I know all the hard work that went into putting this forum together as a place that would be safe enuf yet open enuf. I know it will be very much of both.
Now, I'm speaking as someone who has done this myself, as have many of us. But I want to encourage all of us, before we share these kinds of struggles here on the public boards (or in any other forum), to please consider the possible cost or risk of so doing, as compared to the much lesser cost (and what risk?) of joining MS. If you haven't already. And trust me on this one, there are lots of ways to become a member, and it will not be nearly as costly as you might think!
Finally, if you decide you need to share about these struggles here on the public forum, please be full on caution & light on details as you can; please realize & be willing to accept the risks; please consider the effects on your fellow survivors; please always use a "trigger warning" something like this:
*****WARNING: ACTING OUT BEHAVIORS, LUSTS, SEXUAL FANTASIES*****MAY TRIGGER!*****
Also consider the use of careful PMs with people you can trust & whom you are pretty sure won't be triggered; if you're not sure you could ask them before sharing much.
Fellow survivors, our goal is a safe site, with a number of forums that are as safe as possible for different people with different concerns at any given time in recovery, in moving from victim to survivor to thriving. This particular [i]members forum for at risk survivors [i] can be an important part of this.
I wish for all of us the best in this recovery!
"I can't stand pain. It hurts me."