I have known about my fiance's CSA for almost a year. We initially went to couples and individual counseling and the therapist told us he was handling it extremely well and we/he didn't need further counseling at that point. He still is handling it well, but I have really internalized his CSA and it is affecting me sexually.
Before he told me, I enjoyed sexual intimacy with him, but since his disclosure I have been unable to enjoy acts similar to those he experienced in his CSA. I think about what happened and imagine how I would have reacted, and in some way see our relations in the same light as those in his past.
He tells me he loves and desires me and would like to do those things, but he understands waiting for me to be ready again. I don't want this to continue to negatively affect our relationship in the future, and I especially don't want him to develop these same feelings towards our sexual intimacy.
We will be going to a counselor again starting next week, but I have been wondering if anyone else has experienced this problem and how they dealt with it (and thus found this website). It is especially difficult because I feel like this is affecting me worse than it is him, and it wasn't even my experience.