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#223233 - 05/08/08 10:34 AM sometimes
Jarrad Offline
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i wish i wasn't attractive so i wouldn't have been a target.


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#223238 - 05/08/08 11:06 AM Re: sometimes [Re: Jarrad]
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Jarrad ...

I bet ya was a cute kid ...
but unfortunately cute or not
kids in your situation are targets
Sad commentary on life it is,
but you certianly didn't deserve it
or to be treated that way tho.

If it helps ... I'll call ya ugly
next time I sees ya in chat ;\)

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#223241 - 05/08/08 11:16 AM Re: sometimes [Re: arronb]
Freedom49 Offline
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Jarrad I can't count the times I have thought that and said that. I was carded at bars till I was 32 or 33 years old. My younger friends, even the underage ones with fake Id were jealous as they many times would not be looked at twice. Like Arron says it is a sad commentary.


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#223248 - 05/08/08 11:31 AM Re: sometimes [Re: Freedom49]
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I look at pictures of me as a kid and aside from when I was real young, I wasn't cute at all. I was quite the homely look kid, big freakin 80's style glasses that were 10 times too big for your face. I was hit some many times over it wasn't funny. I don't think perps really care what the kid looks like most of the time. After all, aside from the face we're all pretty much the same everywhere else.


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#223249 - 05/08/08 11:55 AM Re: sometimes [Re: Jarrad]
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Jarrad,

It's funny you should mention that. As a sort of contrast to your comment, I never saw myself as attractive as a kid. However, after the abuse, I had an unhealthy need to take care of myself to be as attractive as possible. I wanted to be able to continue the abuse with whomever I desired.

Anyone else develop those kind of feelings? It wouldn't surprise if this was a common thing mostly among the gay fellas.

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#223250 - 05/08/08 12:00 PM Re: sometimes [Re: cbfull]
Freedom49 Offline
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yup CBfull


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#223251 - 05/08/08 12:20 PM Re: sometimes [Re: Jarrad]
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I think it depends on the perp. There are different kinds of perps (of course).

In my pufferfish story no. 1 where I was a victim of kiddie porn, I think "cute" was definitely a factor. Perhaps that relates to Jarrad's comment.

There is a terrible book where a man (a small gang of young men) would take children and mess them up. The book is called The Man With the Candy. In that book it talks about them sizing up the children as to physical desirability.


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#223291 - 05/08/08 05:17 PM Re: sometimes [Re: pufferfish]
JustJeff Offline
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Most perps don't care about looks it's about control mostly, so they(The Perps) are looking for kids that they can control easily using emotions or whatnot. looks do factor into it, but i think there negligible.

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#223292 - 05/08/08 05:51 PM Re: sometimes [Re: JustJeff]
Freedom49 Offline
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That is probably true Jeff. It just didn't seem that way with the ones I met up with. At least they way that talked about me and other boys. That could have just me my experience.


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#223303 - 05/08/08 07:35 PM Re: sometimes [Re: Freedom49]
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Hey now, I am still good looking. Just look at my icon

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