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#221347 - 04/29/08 09:02 AM Re: what do you want from your abuser. [Re: roadrunner]
EGL Offline
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I want nothing from them. I'm concentrated on making myself better, and anything from them won't help that.

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#221506 - 04/29/08 05:05 PM Re: what do you want from your abuser. [Re: EGL]
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Registered: 04/29/08
Posts: 11
I would want to know why me.
Was it my looks or did I jsut look like an easy target.


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#221648 - 04/30/08 08:24 AM Re: what do you want from your abuser. [Re: RobertRent]
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Registered: 03/19/08
Posts: 9
Loc: Wales - United Kingdom
Good question,

I wouldn't want an apology from him... or wish him any unwell. He couldn't say anything to make me feel better.

Just the admission of what he did so I can move on knowing that it isn't in my head and that it really happened and then I can find some closure to the mess that I have made to my life over the last 12 months.

Then I can break free from this sentence!!!

Silent Witness


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#221655 - 04/30/08 09:06 AM Re: what do you want from your abuser. [Re: justanother121]
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Registered: 09/11/07
Posts: 192
Loc: North Of The 49th Parallel
I was raped by two men and a woman. What do I want from them ?
Not a damned thing. Suffering shit, I don't even know their identities. That was almost thirty years ago. I only want my soul that they stole from me. I'd like my assailants to know in exacting detail what it feels to go through thirty years of fucking hell with deep pain inside their hearts.
Damn; maybe that is asking too much. What ever happened to the Golden Rule: "Do onto others as you would have done to
yourself" ? Out the door like a lot of morals.
Anyways I'm not their judge.
They all have to confront their Maker when the chapter of their life comes to an end. I just want peace from my past, that's all.




Edited by jcf1957 (04/30/08 12:41 PM)
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#221670 - 04/30/08 10:21 AM Re: what do you want from your abuser. [Re: jcf1957]
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Registered: 03/26/08
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I'm not exactly sure what I want. Sometimes I say "Oh I want nothing from him" and other times I think "I want him to get what he did to me" but of course that has a 0.01 probability of happening and other times I think "I want acknowledgment of what he did to me" and other times I think I want financial compensation for a life ruined.

Yeah I think now, today, acknowledgment of the crime would suit me as a starting point. There are a lot of debts owed me by this person. But they can't be repayed without that basic acknowledgment.

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#221691 - 04/30/08 11:52 AM Re: what do you want from your abuser. [Re: ineffable]
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Registered: 04/29/08
Posts: 38
Loc: New York
Prison

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#221712 - 04/30/08 01:24 PM Re: what do you want from your abuser. [Re: Corbin327]
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Registered: 02/13/04
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his head on a silver plater

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#221716 - 04/30/08 01:50 PM Re: what do you want from your abuser. [Re: OKIE MIKE]
ak Offline
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Registered: 01/10/04
Posts: 1491
It seem to me that to want something 'from' them, would be to put yourself in their power again. Beside, with very few exceptions, it is not as we are going to get anything from them. It seem to me it is better question to ask, what am I going to give to myself, or do for myself, to get my life better then it is?

andrei


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#230746 - 06/13/08 02:58 PM Re: what do you want from your abuser. [Re: silent_witness]
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Registered: 04/14/08
Posts: 24
my favorite song.


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#230771 - 06/13/08 05:58 PM Re: what do you want from your abuser. [Re: justanother121]
jcf1957 Offline
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Registered: 09/11/07
Posts: 192
Loc: North Of The 49th Parallel
Nothing. Sweet Fuck All.

For Thirty Years I have been tormented by my past

I just want peace. A tranquil soul that no longer feels pain.

Is that so much to ask ?

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