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#221080 - 04/28/08 12:54 PM what has the abuse cost you.
justanother121 Offline
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I was wondering what you feel the abuse has cost you?


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#221092 - 04/28/08 01:11 PM Re: what has the abuse cost you. [Re: justanother121]
JustScott Offline
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Registered: 01/27/08
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Too much.

Friends
Intimacy
Trust
Closeness
Stability
Strength
Confidence
Love

Bunch more but those are the big ones.


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#221094 - 04/28/08 01:15 PM Re: what has the abuse cost you. [Re: JustScott]
Freedom49 Offline
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Registered: 12/30/07
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Loc: Washington State
my childhood,
My ability to understand and enjoy what sex was meant to be.
My self esteme.
My ability to enjoy male companionship and friendship.
My first marriage.
My relationship with my sons.
My relationsip to God for many years.
and much more like Scott said.


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#221108 - 04/28/08 01:53 PM Re: what has the abuse cost you. [Re: Freedom49]
DanM Offline
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Registered: 11/09/07
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Loc: So. California
The abuse has cost me dearly. I am having a difficult time writing down all the things. When I begin to think about it, I mentally shut down.

I lost my sense of "me".
It cost me the ability to make friends.
It prevented me from doing things to make my life better.
It almost cost me my marriage.
It stripped me of all good feelings about me.
It made me bitter and angry.
It emotionally crippled me for a very long time.
I lost my ability to care about me and others.
It cost me my self esteem.


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#221134 - 04/28/08 03:10 PM Re: what has the abuse cost you. [Re: DanM]
hogan_dawg Offline
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All of the above. And about $1 - $100 million in loss of enjoyment of my life.

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Andrew Vachs, 2003

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#221138 - 04/28/08 03:20 PM Re: what has the abuse cost you. [Re: hogan_dawg]
OKIE MIKE Offline
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My sanity

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MICHAEL

"I HAD NO SHOES THEN I SAW A MAN THAT HAD NO FEET"

"All I can do is be me, whoever that is"

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#221139 - 04/28/08 03:24 PM Re: what has the abuse cost you. [Re: OKIE MIKE]
hogan_dawg Offline
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Good one Michael. Moi aussi.

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Andrew Vachs, 2003

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#221149 - 04/28/08 03:49 PM Re: what has the abuse cost you. [Re: hogan_dawg]
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Look at any list of the emotional and physical impact of childhood sexual abuse, and I can identify with 90% of the de>
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"You should listen to your heart, and not the voices in your head."

Marge Simpson

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#221165 - 04/28/08 04:32 PM . [Re: dannym]
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#221167 - 04/28/08 04:37 PM Re: what has the abuse cost you. [Re: bardo213]
ak Offline
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What it have cost me, I am working to 'buy back' now. No, I should not have to. But I am able to, and if it is the only way I can get back the good, then it is worth it. It is possible.

andrei


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