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#221080 - 04/28/08 11:54 AM
what has the abuse cost you.
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I was wondering what you feel the abuse has cost you?
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#221092 - 04/28/08 12:11 PM
Re: what has the abuse cost you.
[Re: justanother121]
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Too much.
Friends
Intimacy
Trust
Closeness
Stability
Strength
Confidence
Love
Bunch more but those are the big ones.
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#221094 - 04/28/08 12:15 PM
Re: what has the abuse cost you.
[Re: JustScott]
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my childhood,
My ability to understand and enjoy what sex was meant to be.
My self esteme.
My ability to enjoy male companionship and friendship.
My first marriage.
My relationship with my sons.
My relationsip to God for many years.
and much more like Scott said.
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#221134 - 04/28/08 02:10 PM
Re: what has the abuse cost you.
[Re: DanM]
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All of the above. And about $1 - $100 million in loss of enjoyment of my life.
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I can say unequivocally that the lie of "To truly heal you must first forgive" has derailed more victims than the abusers themselves.
Andrew Vachs, 2003
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#221138 - 04/28/08 02:20 PM
Re: what has the abuse cost you.
[Re: hogan_dawg]
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My sanity
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MICHAEL
"I HAD NO SHOES THEN I SAW A MAN THAT HAD NO FEET"
"All I can do is be me, whoever that is"
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#221139 - 04/28/08 02:24 PM
Re: what has the abuse cost you.
[Re: OKIE MIKE]
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Good one Michael. Moi aussi.
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I can say unequivocally that the lie of "To truly heal you must first forgive" has derailed more victims than the abusers themselves.
Andrew Vachs, 2003
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#221149 - 04/28/08 02:49 PM
Re: what has the abuse cost you.
[Re: hogan_dawg]
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Look at any list of the emotional and physical impact of childhood sexual abuse, and I can identify with 90% of the de>
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"You should listen to your heart, and not the voices in your head."
Marge Simpson
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#221165 - 04/28/08 03:32 PM
Re: what has the abuse cost you.
[Re: dannym]
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I lost my identity as the man that I truly want to be to those who love me dearly around me in my life. Sometimes I wonder what my life would be like if that never happend in the first place and where I would be to this day because I never thought this is where I would be in my life.
Its a good thing I caught it while I was young and not 35yrs down the road wondering what the hell happend to my life. I think the biggest thing for me is coming to acceptance with the things that have happend in my past and learning reroute the way I think about things and my beliefs about relationships and friends and not walking out into this world that everyones out to get me. Believing hole heartedly that I can be the man I want to be and not compare myself to others but learn to love myself for who Iam and nourish that child who was tore apart a long time ago and helping out and listening to him.
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#221167 - 04/28/08 03:37 PM
Re: what has the abuse cost you.
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What it have cost me, I am working to 'buy back' now. No, I should not have to. But I am able to, and if it is the only way I can get back the good, then it is worth it. It is possible.
andrei
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