O yea this is so true.! My therapist said today about that movie: Jerry Mcgiure, where Tom Cruise says ;U complete me... ,Was such a co dependent Statement. We don't need to have some one in our lives to be complete or be happy or give love out .We have an unending ability to give love or to show kindness .When you master the ability to have inner peace and confidence and are fine to be alone and enjoy yourself then you truly are ready to find someone if you feel the need to share life with .I was always needy, thinking I had to be married or with someone to be happy and when i find that person that's when I will be happy.Today 13 years past a divorce I'm enjoying life and letting things just happin and accepting ;come what may; and not trying to controll every thing I can't.Seek that which brings peace.
Search through me,O God,and know my heart. Examine me,and know my disquieting thoughts,and see whether there is in me any painful way,And lead me in the way of time indefinite. Psalm 139:23,24