I was searching through old e-mails I had saved and cleaning up and found this. After a bout of depression, and a long talk, my aunt sent it to me about 2 years ago. I think it's good -- thought I'd pass it along.
HOW DO I MAINTAIN LOW SELF ESTEEM?
No setting of clear goals
Depending upon others for a sense of importance
Not accepting complete responsibility for my life
Depending upon others to do what I need to do
Depending upon other people's permission before being able to act
Not differentiating between who I am and what I do
Comparing myself to others and making others a gauge of my importance
Failing to recognize and make choices
Not allowing myself the freedom of expression, the freedom to make mistakes,
the freedom to fail
Being fearful and anxious about things we can do nothing about
AS AN ADULT, I AM RESPONSIBLE TO BUILD AND MAINTAIN POSITIVE
HIGH RESPONSIBLITY = HIGH FREEDOM
LOW RESPONSIBILITY = LOW FREEDOM
Certain temperaments make the mistake of not pushing harder when they are younger, of being too laid back, watching others accomplish their goals; then
regretting the place in life where they end up, wondering why they are not at the same place as others.
There is a saying in the business world: If you don't have a plan for your life, others will see that and want you to help them accomplish their plan. Helping others is not bad, but it can steer someone's life focus in the wrong direction or lessen their chances of building confidence in their own life plans.
Life's disappointments are harder to take when you don't know any swear words. -- Calvin (Calvin and Hobbes)