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#217480 - 04/12/08 12:07 AM After Healing
markgreyblue Offline
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Registered: 12/19/03
Posts: 5400
Loc: Pasadena, CA
I was in a meeting where we were offering support for
a person who was having a problem with drugs.
He was a young person. Another person in the meeting offered the thought that
though he is clinging to his girlfriend now, he will realize that as you get older
you don't need another person to be yourself or to be happy.

It really struck a bell with me. After healing, it now really faced me like a mirror of truth.
I think in other words it can be seen as a goal to reclaiming oneself.
The goal of healing and growing is to be able to relax and let life happen,
while being strong enough and ok enough within to stick with the good things
and good people who come into your life. In short it's a kind
of casual self contentment, and regard.

I think you can see too from there, more deeply as a result,
what it is you want out of life.

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"...do not look outside yourself for the leader."
-wisdom of the hopi elders

"...the sign of a true leader is service..." - anonymous



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#217496 - 04/12/08 01:13 AM Re: After Healing [Re: markgreyblue]
richie Offline
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Registered: 04/08/08
Posts: 11
Loc: Va.
O yea this is so true.! My therapist said today about that movie: Jerry Mcgiure, where Tom Cruise says ;U complete me... ,Was such a co dependent Statement. We don't need to have some one in our lives to be complete or be happy or give love out .We have an unending ability to give love or to show kindness .When you master the ability to have inner peace and confidence and are fine to be alone and enjoy yourself then you truly are ready to find someone if you feel the need to share life with .I was always needy, thinking I had to be married or with someone to be happy and when i find that person that's when I will be happy.Today 13 years past a divorce I'm enjoying life and letting things just happin and accepting ;come what may; and not trying to controll every thing I can't.Seek that which brings peace.

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Search through me,O God,and know my heart. Examine me,and know my disquieting thoughts,and see whether there is in me any painful way,And lead me in the way of time indefinite. Psalm 139:23,24

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#217506 - 04/12/08 01:48 AM Re: After Healing [Re: richie]
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Registered: 12/19/03
Posts: 5400
Loc: Pasadena, CA
richie,

thanks for your response. i wanted to say too, as i become more aware of the good people and things in my life, i also become incredibly more grateful for them, it's like a double gift.
i know i deserve good things, but i am also grateful for them and am lucky to have them.

mgb



Edited by markgreyblue (04/12/08 01:49 AM)
_________________________
"...do not look outside yourself for the leader."
-wisdom of the hopi elders

"...the sign of a true leader is service..." - anonymous



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#218473 - 04/16/08 06:13 AM Re: After Healing [Re: markgreyblue]
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Registered: 10/28/07
Posts: 955
Loc: North Carolina, USA
I sometimes feel I don't need someone in my life to be happy or complete but then again I can get lonely and feel sorry for my life as it is.
I finally ordered this book in the hope I will learn a better way to see myself and my world. From what I read on the web page I have learned much about my outlook.

Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls
A Cosmic Perspective on Codependence and the Human Condition
by Robert Burney
http://joy2meu.com/joy_22.htm

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I'm a normal person dealing with abnormal experiences.
The greatest discoveries we will find within ourselves.
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