my boyfriend is a male survivor, and he's spent most of his life dealing with what happened to him on his own. recently things that i feel he has repressed have been affecting our relationship, and i have been suggesting that he tries to find help for himself, and also for us. hes seeked out help one other time in the past, and it brought up many bad emotions for him without really helping, and he told me that it put him into a depression. i think he associates facing his past with those feelings now, which makes me hesitant on trying to help him help himself. i feel very guilty when i try to "help" him, because i don't want anything bad to happen to him. i love him so much, i just want him to live a life where he isn't afraid anymore. sometimes when i hear his opinions on getting help now- i almost get sucked into the hopelessness that carries across the conversation- i really don't think he believes that the male survivor aspect of his life will ever heal. is there anything i can do to show him that he's a beautiful person who deserves to rid himself of this anxiety?