Those are needs every boy has - such important needs. Every boy gets scared and stumbles and needs safe men in his life to do exactly what you say - affirm his boyhood and be there for him when he is worried, confused or hurt.
You had every right to have these needs filled, and to hurt about it now when you look back and see it wasn't so. That was wrong. I don't know what else to say, my friend, except to say I'm glad you can talk about it. Little Andy needs to hear how you feel about this.
Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me. (Woody Guthrie)