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#215582 - 04/05/08 01:29 PM PM's to underage members?
ak Offline
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Registered: 01/10/04
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I am just curious, have the policy change on this, or is no one suppose to PM with underage members except the moderaters and the 'mod buddy'? (And I would guess, other underage members?) There was a new member here that PM me, and we message back and forth few times until I realize he is a teenager. I do not know how much it is told to new teen members what the site policy is, or even to new adult members.

andrei


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#215587 - 04/05/08 01:38 PM Re: PM's to underage members? [Re: ak]
Freedom49 Offline
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Andrei,
That was my understanding too and I have to admit I have been guilty of that. Sorry.


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#215589 - 04/05/08 01:39 PM Re: PM's to underage members? [Re: ak]
king tut Offline
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i don't think there is a rule, i think they say not to pm people if they just joined, to let them settle in first, to let the moderators or now teen co-ordinator to welcome them

but i don't know really

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#215599 - 04/05/08 02:51 PM Re: PM's to underage members? [Re: king tut]
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oh really? i had no clue there was a rule against that. well shit. lol im guilty of that too.


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#215608 - 04/05/08 03:14 PM Re: PM's to underage members? [Re: Jarrad]
ak Offline
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I find it in the Discussion Board guidelines post in the main Male Survivor forum, in the part that talk about teen survivors:

Quote:
* It is best to avoid private correspondence with users until you have been here for some time. Try to keep your interactions with members on the forums rather than Private Message until you have been using the site for six months. Please tell your Mod Buddy or an Administrator if you receive a private message (PM) that you feel is inappropriate.


So I guess it is the same as it was before. They use to have it posted somewhere else before, I think that is why I could not find it.

andrei


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#215625 - 04/05/08 03:53 PM Re: PM's to underage members? [Re: ak]
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Guys,

This question is currently under discussion among the Mods and Admin. We'll post a clarification soon.

In the meantime the approach we take is to ask site users not to establish any "hidden" or private relationships with minors or any other users on this site that would not pass examination in "the light of day". If you follow this principal there should be no question regardless of who your conversation is with.

On the other hand, any "hidden relationship" with anyone on the site that is inappropriate, especially if it is with a minor, will be dealt with accordingly.

John aka walkingsouth
For the MS Mod Team

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#215626 - 04/05/08 03:53 PM Re: PM's to underage members? *DELETED* [Re: ak]
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#215628 - 04/05/08 03:55 PM Re: PM's to underage members? [Re: ModTeam]
ak Offline
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Originally Posted By: ModTeam


On the other hand, any "hidden relationship" with anyone on the site that is inappropriate, especially if it is with a minor, will be dealt with accordingly.

John aka walkingsouth
For the MS Mod Team


(And twice!!)


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#215629 - 04/05/08 03:58 PM Re: PM's to underage members? [Re: ak]
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Yes, twice! dunno how that how that happened!

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#215636 - 04/05/08 04:36 PM Re: PM's to underage members? [Re: WalkingSouth]
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There is a "PM usage" sticky post in the "general Discussion" forum on the member's side.

It used to be public, but I don't see it on the public side anywhere.

It addresses the issue Andrei raised and other PM issues as well.



Edited by Don-NY (04/05/08 04:40 PM)
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#215652 - 04/05/08 05:25 PM Re: PM's to underage members? [Re: Don-NY]
Jarrad Offline
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right, but what if a minor PMs you? I'm not going to ignore him. that's just rude.


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#215748 - 04/05/08 11:03 PM Re: PM's to underage members? [Re: Jarrad]
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My way of handling a minor PM-ing me was to let the Mod's know. They did not say for me not to PM the minor, just to let them know if anything came up that they needed to know about. By keeping the Mods informed as to what is happening, it keeps me out of the shits. I don't think there can be a rule set in concrete about this. In general, PM's between minors and adults are not approved of. I feel if a minor contacts a adult, the adult should let a Mod know about it. In my case I gave the mod a link to the PM, so he could follow it if he wanted to. I have nothing to hide. By doing it the way I did, it lets the Mod take a look at what is being said, helps the Mod to make a decision whether he wants me to keep talking to the minor.

Take care,
Clifford

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#215750 - 04/05/08 11:15 PM Re: PM's to underage members? [Re: lostcowboy]
Freedom49 Offline
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I too have done that on occasion Clifford. Not always though, I have chatted with them in chat and had followup PM to see how their doing or they will PM me about some suggestion I made regarding a situation. If I think there is some thread that might me misinterpred I will check with a mod. It is all on the up and up and so I have no problem with them checking my messages and have encuraged such. Still I have been pretty lax about no communication with the teens.



Edited by Freedom49 (04/05/08 11:16 PM)

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#215766 - 04/06/08 12:05 AM Re: PM's to underage members? [Re: Freedom49]
JustJeff Offline
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In all seriousness, the private corispondence(P Ming) that i'm able to have with adults is the primary reason why i'm still on this site. without the pm's of the adults i would've never known that people were on my side during the aftermath of my first post. if i had not been able to recieve or send out private messages to adults i would've been gone.

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#215783 - 04/06/08 01:57 AM Re: PM's to underage members? [Re: Don-NY]
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Let me just say here publicly; i don't have a problem with people PMing me in chat, if they're "just checking in", or need to chat about something they don't want everyone in the room to hear- but please don't PM me in chat, unless there's something specific or urgent on your mind! I tend to type slowly, and don't hit "Enter" after every three words, and actually stop to consider my posts/responses; so having a general "room" post, or "PM" post, cut in half, and appearing in the wrong place, can be irritating. Alright, i'll stop ranting now...

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