I don't mean to beat up on you, but here is an example of how problematic things can get when we think of abuse issues too simply, or in terms of the old familiar black and white themes we see repeated over and over again:
I was thinking the 40 year old man that attacks a kid in a public restroom.
That image of the kid abused by a predatory stranger in a public place is a very common one, and we also see it consecrated in films like Mystic River
. But it's a myth.
All research shows that in the vast majority of cases (over 90%), boys are abused by people they know and trust (a relative, friend of the family, babysitter, youth group leader, coach, teacher, religious advisor). And the most frequent location for abuse is the boy's own home.