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#21489 - 02/10/02 04:10 PM OUR CONDITION
Howaboutthis Offline
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Registered: 12/29/01
Posts: 22
Loc: Manhattan
hi,

lets face facts we will probably suffer the rest of our llves as the result of our abuse, this is just a website for people so that they won't feel alone and for the administrators to read our chats and collect data on us and find employment or data to discuss amongst themselves and to be members of professional organizations to further their professional careers. There are very few good therapists and they have just about no openings for therapy and groups.

Just try to enjoy your lives and if we reincarnate in 300 years maybe there would help for us then.


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#21490 - 02/10/02 08:23 PM Re: OUR CONDITION
getteddie Offline
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Registered: 07/19/01
Posts: 226
Loc: Cub Hill, Md
Right On!

Eddie


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#21491 - 02/11/02 01:29 AM Re: OUR CONDITION
MrDon Offline
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Registered: 01/08/01
Posts: 957
Loc: Deltona, FL
Sorry, I don't share your insight. I've personally gotten to know several people who have moved way beyond the abuse. If the goal for me is that there is no moving forward, than I should have quit a long time ago. I guess I don't understand where you are coming from because from where I can see, it looks much different.

Don

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#21492 - 02/11/02 03:07 PM Re: OUR CONDITION
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Registered: 07/19/01
Posts: 226
Loc: Cub Hill, Md
MrDon;
Maybe if you would have shared a little of your insights in the last year, we too may feel the way you do...12 post? Are you awake now and ready to help a little?

Eddie


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#21493 - 02/11/02 04:23 PM Re: OUR CONDITION
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Registered: 09/12/00
Posts: 667
Loc: Northern California Foothills
I don't think that any of us need to suffer forever for what was done to us. Healing takes time, healing is a lot of work, healing comes when it comes. Facing the reality of what happened, and finally truely believing that it was not my fault has helped me in my journey. I'm not 'cured', I'm probably not the person I would have been without the SA, but I'm a better person now than I was a few years ago. I don't think that the journey will ever end, in fact I hope it doesn't, life is a learning experience and learning to survive and thrive will happen and has happened in my life. I'm optimistic about my future, I believe that things do get better because I have seen it. There have been setbacks and obstacles but I think that they can be dealt with and overcome given time, maybe not today or tomorrow. I try not to be so impatient that I don't see the small things in life that make every day a bit better in some respect or another.

Take care,

Steve

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I want to stay as close to the edge as I can without going over. Out on the edge you see all kinds of things you can't see from the center.
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#21494 - 02/12/02 01:44 PM Re: OUR CONDITION
SoCalJohn Offline
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Registered: 05/18/01
Posts: 510
Loc: Los Angeles, California
Eddie,

The cheap shot at Don is uncalled for and out of place at a site like this, we are here for support, ok?

My life is completely different, in many positive ways.

The abuse issues don't have 1/100th of the hold over me they used to, it's like peeling an onion, you just take it each layer at a time as your able to and when you get to it.

It's the same with your voice, you use it when it's there.

John

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I asked him about this law he spoke of, he said,,, *watch* he then asked the others to share about their lives,,, the others talked of how things were for them, how things worked in their lives,,, and as they believed, it was so.

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#21495 - 02/12/02 09:34 PM Re: OUR CONDITION
getteddie Offline
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Registered: 07/19/01
Posts: 226
Loc: Cub Hill, Md
Sorry Don,
It was a cheap shot...I'm feeling really bad and took it out on you...Sorry my anger went your way and disturbed others! I guess that I will be one of these asses that complain forever.

Eddie


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#21496 - 02/12/02 10:48 PM Re: OUR CONDITION
MrDon Offline
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Registered: 01/08/01
Posts: 957
Loc: Deltona, FL
Get Eddie,
I don't come here a lot, partly because there are a million things going on in my life right now. I also run a survivors board and I visit another one of a friend, very frequently. On top of it, my mom was killed a month ago. On top of that, I just started a new job about a month ago after being unemployed for 12 months. Right now, if I post anything at any site, it is a miracle because my strength and words are almost non existant.

To be honest, I have seen so much in my life that I feel so much for anyone who has gone through this stuff. It rips me apart to see it and I hurt for others when I hear about it. I wish there was some way I could wipe the pain away that I still experience and at the same time wipe away the pain that everyone else experiences. However I don't have a majic wand... and right now for me, all I can do is just take each day as I can. Sometimes I make it through the day and sometimes it just blows up in my face.

Anyway, maybe I didn't come across right and it was probably one of those times that I should have waited to post. My intentions were good, but I think my words failed me on that post.

I will try and post up here as I can but right now, the load is very heavy for me and I have to take care of myself as best as I can. I just want you to know that I do care, and that I know there is a different place that each of us will find on our journey. I've still got a long ways to go (in my eyes although my therapist says I am normal)... but we all will get there. The ones up ahead are just making sure the path is safe enough for the rest of us..... and we will do the same for those behind us as well.

Don

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In order to journey to new worlds, we must first be willing to lose site of the shore.

The Mind Body Thoughts Blog
http://mindbodythoughts.blogspot.com/

Check out my relaxing piano music from the heart!
http://www.donshetterly.com

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