I don't know if diagnosis is really your job to do the diagnosing anyway - getting data is one thing, interpreting it rightly another. Complex stuff. So I don't know. Maybe your energies can go toward something else that helps out?
Like, I'm wondering, if you suspect abuse is happening, you might suspect it because he seems to check out on a CSA checklist. That's sort of what you've done already and that's cool. But as we're discovering, there are limits to how far that can go. I mean, legally, I don't think you could administer tests, for example. And even talk about CSA could itself be triggering and traumatic - and you don't want that either.
Or, you might suspect it because you've observed someone with a keen interest in children hanging around him, or being with him in more private situations. That kind of data is what the people who can help are looking to see also.
Edited by hogan_dawg (04/01/08 10:44 PM)
I can say unequivocally that the lie of "To truly heal you must first forgive" has derailed more victims than the abusers themselves.
Andrew Vachs, 2003