Those resources should be a link on the homepage, a deterant in big letters, and that they should try those first before coming here. They said 90% of perps were abused themselves as kids which sounds about right, there is a line that is crossed. It's read more like 90% percent of us are perps most of the time. Of course my "us and them", "black and white" thinking. I remember all of the post you mentioned ak, back then I couldn't speak about things even though I so badly wanted. Where we are we should not feel like we need to hide what we say.
If they do come here welcome them... in another area though, because they do have issues that the rest of us do not. Is that a mean, dishonest statement or too much to ask? Cater to them but don't include the rest of us who can't handle it, make it a choice of interest in helping them.
It is unsafe to me and I don't need a predatory individual involved with me trying to heal. It's damaging to be around MOST of them to me. Things from them come off as patronizing and deceptive. Some of it even feels like grooming stuff because "they understand". Even if they were in another area and then crossed over to never speak of it on this side would be unhealthy for me because now they're hiding something. I'll never see them as safe to be around children and very few safe for me personally, it's too hard to see motives through words on here. I have enough problems than to add this mess to the mix.
The statistics? 1 in 4, 1 in 6?
...then there's me the imaginary number