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#210982 - 03/16/08 03:57 AM Moving On | THANK you all for the advice.
AnneWantsToHelp Offline
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Registered: 03/06/08
Posts: 15
Some of you may remember my need to understand
a CSA survivor. I have to thank you all for immediately
lending your strong support, advice & direction.

It helped me deal with my own issues as well.

I didn't feel so bad about his behavior towards me.
Granted, I deserve to be respected as I respect myself.
But having insight on why he unintentionally yet intentionally
hurts my feelings, has given me a new sense of strength.
Now, I do not take his actions as personally as I did before.

I always thought his hurtful behavior was direct
attacks on me. And now I know he pushes me away
when I get too close to the heart.

sigh...

We've recently reconnected & are talking in a civil manner.
I haven't sprung the suggestion of therapy but I will very
soon. For now, I'm glad we are on decent speaking terms,
which gives me room to reel him in in the matter.

I am off in 3 hours...moving wayyy across country, 3000+
miles away from him, to give myself room to breath. At
this point, if he wants to be bothered, it's on him.

Sometime this week I plan to introduce him to MS.org
I will surely keep you all posted.

Thanks again to you all, for everything. I've
read so many stories that have enlightened me in
a way that I will be more sensitive to all CSA
survivors.

I truly gain more then ever expected.
I've finally coming to terms, out of denial,
with my own story. Therapy is in the near
future for me.

Good luck to you all. I will post
an update soon. All while, I'll also
be spectator gaining more insight from
you dear people.


With love,


-anne.

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#210984 - 03/16/08 04:03 AM Re: Moving On | THANK you all for the advice. [Re: AnneWantsToHelp]
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Registered: 12/30/07
Posts: 2723
Loc: Washington State
God bless you Anne, you are an amazing woman. I say again he is lucky to have a friend like you. Good luck.


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#210993 - 03/16/08 07:29 AM Re: Moving On | THANK you all for the advice. [Re: Freedom49]
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Registered: 10/28/07
Posts: 955
Loc: North Carolina, USA
Anne,
I wish you well on your journey of recovery where ever it may lead you, may it be a happy place.

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#211046 - 03/16/08 12:21 PM Re: Moving On | THANK you all for the advice. [Re: GateKPR4]
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Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16264
Later then, Anne. We're glad you found what you needed here. Blessings to you wherever life takes you.

John

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#211103 - 03/16/08 06:17 PM Re: Moving On | THANK you all for the advice. [Re: WalkingSouth]
LJA Offline
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Registered: 02/05/08
Posts: 35
Anne, you have a lot of compassion and courage, amongst other things.
Wishing you much happiness,
LJA


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#212415 - 03/23/08 02:21 AM Re: Moving On | THANK you all for the advice. [Re: Freedom49]
AnneWantsToHelp Offline
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Registered: 03/06/08
Posts: 15
Thank you Roger!!!

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#212416 - 03/23/08 02:22 AM Re: Moving On | THANK you all for the advice. [Re: GateKPR4]
AnneWantsToHelp Offline
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Registered: 03/06/08
Posts: 15
Yes Ricky...I am in a happy place.
THANKS!!!!

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#212417 - 03/23/08 02:23 AM Re: Moving On | THANK you all for the advice. [Re: WalkingSouth]
AnneWantsToHelp Offline
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Registered: 03/06/08
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Thanks John!!!

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#212419 - 03/23/08 02:26 AM Re: Moving On | THANK you all for the advice. [Re: LJA]
AnneWantsToHelp Offline
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Registered: 03/06/08
Posts: 15
A lot of my courage on this site came from people
like you LJA.

Thanks to all of you guys for the support.

xo!!

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