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#212068 - 03/21/08 07:08 AM Can women join?
Kiota Offline
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I'm female but I'm also a survivor of abuse and an advocate for all victims of abuse, male or female. I'm in college studying to become a social worker. I've worked as a peer counselor online for the past four years and I'd really like to offer help and support to guys as well, but I don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable or anything like that, if this forum is generally men-only.


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#212091 - 03/21/08 09:09 AM Re: Can women join? [Re: Kiota]
ak Offline
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Registered: 01/10/04
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There are women who are members here, although they are usually partners of male survivors. There are certain forums that requested that ladies do not post in (like the primery Male Survivors forum). If you become paying member, again, there is some forums that ladies are allowed, and some not. It is very nice that you are wanting to offer support. Not to be rude, but I would just hope that you do not join here, if you do, to focus onto your own issues. If that is the situation, there is many, many groups and forums available for female abuse survivors. There is very little open to men. I do not say that is your desire here, I just wished to comment that. Thank you to not think badly on it.

Andrei


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#212134 - 03/21/08 02:44 PM Re: Can women join? [Re: ak]
Trish4850 Offline
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Hi Kiota,

This is a site primarily for men, but like Andrei said, women are welcomed here as family/friends who are supporting the male survivor in their life. We do have professionals here who are members of the Malesurvivor organization as a whole. Some of them are active on the website and others are involved in different aspects of the organization. If you are interested in using this site as a professional/scholastic resource, you would need to seek permission to post inquiries. I'll get the information as to who you need to contact and pm you; feel free to pm me with any questions you may have as well.

Trish

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#212159 - 03/21/08 06:24 PM Re: Can women join? [Re: Trish4850]
Still Offline
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I've PMed you the address of a site that is a lot like this one, but is 98% female in membership and perspective.

Its a VERY good site.

(edit)I would not feel uncomfortable with you being here BTW.



Edited by Robbie Brown (03/23/08 07:43 PM)
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#212163 - 03/21/08 06:56 PM Re: Can women join? [Re: Still]
Kiota Offline
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I am already a member of that site. I'm not here for my own issues.

I'm not a partner or a relative or anything of a male survivor, though... just a random girl who would like to help guys who were abused as well as girls.


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#212167 - 03/21/08 07:06 PM Re: Can women join? [Re: Kiota]
Trish4850 Offline
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Kiota,

It's a bit of an odd situation, but you're certainly welcome. This is a supportive community. Anything you can gain and give would be welcomed.

Trish

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#212270 - 03/22/08 12:16 PM Re: Can women join? [Re: Kiota]
jcf1957 Offline
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Hi Kiota;
Welcome to this site. Some men might feel uncomfortable talking to a woman on personal issues, and I have to respect that. However; I'm not one of them and I've seen other men on the chat-line who would welcome a woman's point of view. My present psychologist is female who was once a social worker who worked specifically with rape victims. Not surprising though, in the last five years I happen to be the only male rape victim in my city, who has officially come forward to speak about my agonising past at the local provincial mental health clinic. Hell; there's not even an official Rape Crisis Centre for women in my city of 150,000. I doubly doubt there will ever be a Rape Crisis Centre for men in my life time.
Well enough about me rambling on. Just wanted to say your very welcome to be here. I certainly wouldn't mind hearing from you in the Post's and Chat line in the future. Have a great day.



Edited by jcf1957 (03/22/08 12:32 PM)
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#212392 - 03/22/08 11:24 PM Re: Can women join? [Re: jcf1957]
tartugas Offline
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Registered: 02/11/07
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Kiota,

Speaking only on behalf of myself, I'd like to say welcome. I think that you're desire to connect and help is at it's heart, completely healthy and honorable.

I would personally request on thing from you. Please don't post in any of the clearly designated male-only groups. If you feel the need to reach out, send a PM to that person. There are a lot of us who would find ourselves less willing to be as candid as we might be in those forums if we knew that were were addressing mixed company.

That one request aside, there are so many places that you can offer your support and insight. The chat room, the F&F forum, sending supportive PM's, and many of the other forums that are open to general discussion (Spirituality, Off-topic, health and well-being, to name a few).

Welcome and thanks.

Chris

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And it is not because the mechanism is working wrongly, that I am ill.
I am ill because of wounds to the soul, to the deep emotional self...."
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#212422 - 03/23/08 02:48 AM Re: Can women join? [Re: Kiota]
Kiota Offline
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Registered: 03/21/08
Posts: 3
Wouldn't PMing someone in response to something they posted on the male-only boards defeat the purpose though?


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#212561 - 03/23/08 07:06 PM Re: Can women join? *DELETED* [Re: Kiota]
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