I think I got the gist of what you were saying here. I have for a long time felt that life itself has enough of its own inherent difficulties (life questions, death, things that go wrong for no fault of anyones) that it makes no sense that humans then go ahead and pile on so much additional hurt and misery onto others that serves no purpose. Yet it happens. There is something about people that often they are incapable of taking personal responsibility for their own existence, and instead they dump all their garbage onto others in many different ways. That said, once one becomes aware of this, they can choose to not do this to others, and also they can more easily learn to defend against these actions of others when they see it is happening to them. If you look at a lot of what makes up our culture these days, you will see a fair amount of shallowness that reflects this type of behavior. Maybe I am getting on a rant here, so I will just say that for me I have to learn not to buy into it and to try and reach out and connect with the type of people that I like and are more positive and who hold themselves to a higher level. I actually think a lot of this stuff comes from a lack of communication, or at least a lack of any genuine communication, if that makes sense? Okay, enough ranting on my part.
Glad things are going well for you.