That is all so true. Just this week I had a "I give up" day. I woke up form a horrible nightmare and simply could not get to work. I accepted that this was a part of my healing process and managed to sleep some more and get in to see my T and talk about what was going on. By not attacking myself for feeling bad I was actually able to find the strength to do something productive about it. The next day I felt sufficiently better to go to work.
The biggest epiphany I had this week (in my session with my T after the nightmare actually) was that all those people who told me at 5 years old that I had to modify my behavior were wrong. There was nothing wrong with the way I behaved at 5 years old (or subsequently ever). I had unstoppable tantrums because I was living in unacceptable circumstances that I had no power to change. I couldn't make appropriate social connections because I had no one in my life to teach me those skills. Instead all I received were messages that I had to change my behavior. There was nothing wrong with me. That's a pretty big one for me right now.
"I am not a mechanism, an assembly of various sections.
And it is not because the mechanism is working wrongly, that I am ill.
I am ill because of wounds to the soul, to the deep emotional self...."
Healing D.H. Lawrence