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#21147 - 02/06/04 06:04 PM
Re: Spanking as SA? (TRIGGER)
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Registered: 12/31/03
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Loc: ENGLAND
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Sean - read all of this...what he was probably doing was "making a public show that you were a bad kid"... the reason...if you did complain about the abuse "who would believe a bad kid"?
*And he probably had a ***K over it later!
That may just be my perspective on it, my experiences were different, but having read so many different stories about abuse, I am starting to get a pretty clear picture of how these bastards (never give them a capital letter it indicates importance) work!
If you're starting to admit things to your therapist, you are also starting to admit them to yourself... it hurts, but it's a good thing!
Best wishes ...Rik
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#21148 - 02/06/04 10:39 PM
Re: Spanking as SA? (TRIGGER)
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Registered: 02/12/03
Posts: 1561
Loc: Pennsylvania
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Hey Sean - From the victims of sexual abuse I see, many parents think they can touch "their" kids anywhere (anywhere!) they want. Many, many parents are perps. I suppose they "think" because they are MY kids, I can do whatever I want in raising them(?)!. Sad!!!!!!!!!
The saddest part is when "the kids" try to justify the abuse because it HAD to be something they (the kids) did. GARBAGE!!
GoodTouch/BadTouch is for everyone!!
Howard
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#21149 - 02/08/04 01:18 AM
Re: Spanking as SA? (TRIGGER)
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MaleSurvivor
Registered: 06/18/03
Posts: 3614
Loc: Right here
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I am not sure that spanking is to be consider sexual abuse. I was hit so much by my father, with clothes on, with clothes off, hit on any part of body. I never think of it before as sexual abuse thing, but maybe it could have been. My father never abuse any of us in front of other people, other then myself, my mom and my gran. But, we never allowed to have friends outside of house, never could spend time at friend house, or my mom. If what he done to you make you feel more uncomfortable then just physical abuse would, then maybe you can think of it in term of sexual abuse? I don't know. I wish I have better answer to you.
Leosha
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#21150 - 02/15/04 03:20 PM
Re: Spanking as SA? (TRIGGER)
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Registered: 01/17/04
Posts: 135
Loc: San Antonio, Texas-The Lone-St...
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I wouldn't consider it sexual abuse, Sean, but its abuse regardless...makes it worse from the shithead. And that could be the ultimate problem.
Nobody likes to be striked either.
Stay strong.... Mike
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