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#211170 - 03/16/08 10:33 PM WHERE ARE THEY NOW?
Still Offline
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Where are your perps now?

1) Successful businessman still living in my shitty little evil hometown.

2) unknown

3) Auto mechanic and raging alcoholic

4) Dark scary fucker who walks around in black goth clothing and carried a big snake (last I saw of him)

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#211180 - 03/16/08 11:13 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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The SOB is problay dead, I think that he died Dec 2003 in Houstion TX.
I wanted him to know how much pain and anger that he had caused me . He probly went to his grave with out even the slightest remorse. I was probaly just one victom of many. He is hopefuly in Hell . Reaping what he sewn
I am tired of being fucked up. I wish that I could have back the life that could have ben.
Why do I still hold hate for something that happened in 1977?
Why can't I just let it go?

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#211182 - 03/16/08 11:21 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: OKIE MIKE]
Freedom49 Offline
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Registered: 12/30/07
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Loc: Washington State
Dad comitted suicide Jan 10, 1995 0230

Unknown of second.

Unknown of third.

Las Vegas someplace status unknown.

Unknown of fifth


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#211183 - 03/16/08 11:22 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Freedom49]
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Loc: Colorado
unknown

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#211184 - 03/16/08 11:25 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: mogigo]
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PM's are full Rob, make some room \:\)

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#211186 - 03/16/08 11:25 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Freedom49]
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Wow, Roger I didn't know that about your Dad.

Ummmmm, I had two perps, both are dead. The older man perp (25 at the time in 1978) died of heart-related problems in 1994. The teenager perp died in 2006, he killed himself. When I heard that the teen perp died, I knew it was suicide, weird I know, but somehow, I just knew, and I was right.


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#211189 - 03/16/08 11:34 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Hauser]
blacken Offline
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Loc: Northern Ohio
dead

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#211193 - 03/17/08 12:18 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: blacken]
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Perp from my childhood - dead as of 1994. I burned a letter to him over his grave in Feb. 2006.

Perp. from San Francisco - unknown (name too common to google).

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#211196 - 03/17/08 12:27 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: roadrunner]
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1) Retired from the Air Force and living near the east coast

2) Retired from parenting and living in Wyoming

3) No idea - probably passed on though.

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#211197 - 03/17/08 12:27 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: roadrunner]
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Oh!!!!!!!!! I forgot to mention this! I thought you guys might like to know this.

My older perp's sister later told me that he died, sitting next to his roomate, while watching the movie "Ghost", you know the one with Patrick Swazi............talk about Karma huh? Wow........makes me wonder what happened to him after he died you know?


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#211199 - 03/17/08 12:41 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: roadrunner]
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Originally Posted By: roadrunner
Perp from my childhood - dead as of 1994. I burned a letter to him over his grave in Feb. 2006.

Perp. from San Francisco - unknown (name too common to google).


I can find ANYONE! PM me if you wish.

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#211200 - 03/17/08 12:43 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Hauser]
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Loc: oregon
Wish I Knew


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#211201 - 03/17/08 12:45 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Hauser]
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My main perp died in Jan. 2008 (abused for over 8 years)...my second perp is married and lives outside Philadelphia in poor health...my third perp/rapist is unnown (never stopped to introduce himself; he'd be in his 70's by now)...I believe most of my other perps [male and female] are all known to be dead.

Howard

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#211202 - 03/17/08 12:47 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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Originally Posted By: Robbie Brown

I can find ANYONE! PM me if you wish.


I will SO do that!!! Thanks.

L.

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As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
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#211204 - 03/17/08 12:52 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: roadrunner]
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dead now..... I am almost sure of it, but I have no real proof. (just hearsay)

I do know of four other victims of his, and would love to meet them.

Carl

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#211206 - 03/17/08 02:22 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Scoutvictim]
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1- Unknown
2- Probably taking a mug of black tea while enjoying a nice film in Liverpool.

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I'm surrounded by
All this pavement"

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#211213 - 03/17/08 06:16 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: user2007]
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I hope that i never know ''WERE ARE THEY NOW''

i know were two of them are, my step dad and stepbrother, the step dad is alone and living in a tiny flat still in the town were it all started. he is an alcoholic, spent time in a care home. Stepbrother is in an assisted living home for a bone wasting disease.

If i did look for the rest of them i might as well get the telephone directory from the time and area i lived, and randomly open it and close my eyes and stick my finger on the page, 50/50 chance i would find one of them.

Then go further afield and try to find the fucking freaks that brought the films and picks.

Not going there, not today, not fucking ever. My life is shattered and tainted enough without turning into the countries most prolific serial killer.

Sorry for the outburst. i should shut up.

Sorry

Ben


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#211214 - 03/17/08 06:18 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: SEVEN ARROWS]
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1----------------brother -still alive 2--3-------------4--------5-------------have no idea


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#211215 - 03/17/08 06:27 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? *DELETED* [Re: sabata]
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a strong man is one who is able to control himself when he is angry
what is your definiton of control?

i lay awake another hour
just like the one before
the shadows play a game with my head
i can't take this anymore

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#211218 - 03/17/08 06:55 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: nicky]
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I heard my first perp went on to be a successful doctor on the east coast.

My second perp lives about an hour from me. He married, had four kids, and then a year ago, told his wife and family he had a one year old child by another woman and left them all. His parents still live next door to my parents.

Dan

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#211226 - 03/17/08 09:01 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: dannym]
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1 Died Sep 1979 - brain tumour
2 Alive - a feeble old man who won't let go
3 Died Mar 1988 - hung himself

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#211231 - 03/17/08 09:52 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: arronb]
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1,2,3 - No clue where number 3 is, but I heard he is down south somewhere because there are warrants for his arrest in PA. 2nd (female) is married and has a daughter, living in PA somewhere. No Idea where number 1 is.

4 - (female) Alcoholic and Junkie with grandchildren even though she is only 36/37 years old.

5 - No foggy clue.


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#211232 - 03/17/08 09:55 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: JustScott]
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#1: My dad's in a psych ward/VA home somewhere in Wyoming. I forgot the city name -- starts with an "S" I think.

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#211242 - 03/17/08 11:32 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: AndyJB2005]
ak Offline
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1) still working as sport coach, but has been fined and suspended, and have acted the last two years as he have maybe changed his ways, even apologizing to some he have abused

2) in prison

3) dead

4) lost job, unknown where he is now

Andrei


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#211244 - 03/17/08 11:39 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Hauser]
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1. Brother living in another state. We will meet soon when I finalize my plans to confront him.

2. Neighbor boy, died 1988. Next time I am in Wisconsin I am going to piss on his grave.

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#211260 - 03/17/08 12:54 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: KENKEN]
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Loc: Eh?
about a 5 minute drive from where I live.

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#211272 - 03/17/08 02:14 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: frost]
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Perp #1: I looked him up once and he had moved to Canada outside Calgary. He's probably dead now. Even if I knew where he's buried I wouldn't waste the pee on him. He means nothing to me, he no longer has that power over me.

All the others: I don't care anymore, I'm not going to let them use up any more of my energy.

Take good care of yourself,

Steve

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#211278 - 03/17/08 03:51 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Stephen_5]
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For me, it was just one person. Not even sure he is aware of the gravity of what happened. I have no idea where he is, but I will probably get in contact with him via email and let him know what my life has been like and to ask him a few questions (was he abused as a child, what was going on in his mind that he needed what happened so badly, etc.) I noticed he was checking my profile on classmates.com some time ago, so I know I could email him through that. But otherwise I don't care what he is up to really. As best he can sort of fade away (I know it won't completely happen), all the better.


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#211285 - 03/17/08 05:01 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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Mid-Hudson Psychiatric Center (Maximum Security) for now, but he's due to petition his release...again.


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#211294 - 03/17/08 05:41 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Curtis St. John]
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Loc: Clinton Indiana
my uncle and he lives about 12 miles away.


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#211296 - 03/17/08 05:52 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: JerrySan]
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1. as a child my first is dead.

2. as an adult he is alive and living in the same city.

I like to think that after death they spend eternity with all the anguish they have placed in our hearts. If there is a judgement can you imagine God looking at them and saying why in my name did you make your son do that for you.

The first thing I do when the newspaper arrives is check the obits to see if there is good news about #2.


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#211300 - 03/17/08 06:14 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: johnnymike]
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I hope my dad in heaven feels remourse over what happened after seeing it through my eyes, knows how it effected me and honestly asks God, speaking for me, for forgiveness-and is given it. I dont want him to suffer eternal pain, no matter what he did to me. Look at all the mistakes ive made and as Jesus said, let he who is without sin cast the first stone. \:\)

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#211305 - 03/17/08 06:50 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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1) probably dead or an old lady by now
2) probably dead.
3) still married in denyal
4) probably still being a perp somewhere
5) don't know
6) don't know probably dead by now
7) in jail until 2011 - hope he suffers! ALOT!! I think he should get the rack for a week then the IRON MAIDEN, http://www.maidenfans.com/imc/?url=album01_ironmaiden/maidennuremberg&lang=eng&link=albums
I think that covers all of them!
Did someone paint a target on me or what?

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#211311 - 03/17/08 07:23 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: GateKPR4]
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Both are dead as far as I can tell! Can't say it breaks me up too much.

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#211332 - 03/17/08 08:22 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: JerrySan]
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1. R - Still alive. I see him every Thanksgiving and Christmas when he sits across the family dinner table from me. Joy.
2. W - Successful business man here in my hometown where I still live.
3. G - Works at the local hospital.
4. MW - Died a few weeks ago.
5. MH - Don't know about this one.
6. D - Lives in the northern part of my state. His wife died a couple of years ago, so I guess she never found out about D's past.

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#211334 - 03/17/08 08:30 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: EGL]
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1. No idea. Don't even know who he was. Guess it doesn't matter as I don't even live in the same country as him anymore........probably. I moved about six months after it happened.
2. band leader in grades 4-8 Still around, see him occasionally. He came into my work a few weeks ago and recognized me despite me looking a lot different then I did when I was 13 (beard, taller, longer hair). I was polite but short when he talked to me.



Edited by SuperTramp7981 (03/17/08 08:52 PM)
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#211336 - 03/17/08 08:32 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: EGL]
Muldoon Offline
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Loc: St Paul MN
#1 Died in 1959 days after he abused me, I always felt God struck him down

#2 Father R died in 1965 at age of 69 4 years after abusing me

#3 Mr S English Teacher keep on SA ing boys for 7 years after he raped me in 1964. He found out the school board was going to turn him over to police. Left school in middle of day, went home and killed himself May 1971.

Tom

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#211363 - 03/17/08 11:01 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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What an interesting thread

1. I was a victim of kiddy porn. Perp was a major cartoonist in the film city on the West Coast. He made movies of me and 2 other boys. He produced a cartoon which features me and the other 2 boys. It is still on Youtube. It is not copyrighted. It is not pornographic. He was the originator of several of the major cartoon figures that we still see today. I have no idea where they are - I was not quite 4 yr old when it started - It probably could be traced but I don't know how to do it. His career plumited after the abuse. Something like coyotee going over a cliff. He died of a heart attack. The 2 other boys were of famous families.

2. Grandfather - died in agony of atalectasis

3. Bunch of "older" boys at different times - I have no idea, except for one = DS

4. Convicted of sexual misconduct . Served prison time. Now walking the streets. He's in a different state. Registered sex offender. The boy he used as a helper also served time. That all happened after my family left that state.

5. I think living in a big, well protected house. He started his career as a potential "great". He messed it up with weird ideas which were implemented with destructive force to the entire effort which he pioneered. He gathered weird personnel around him. Much publicity has been given to their efforts. He was forced out of his position after only a few years.

6. His picture is posted elsewhere in this site. His abuse ended the scout troop.

7. I don't know.

8. He was the captain of a ship which ran aground with great embarrassment and great financial loss.
------------------------------------------------------------------
P.S.
#1 (pufferfish story part 1) Died of heart attack in 1984 at almost 71. How many boys did he abuse? I have no way of knowing but I would imagine he kept on making kiddie porn and abusing boys long after he ruined me. A colleague described him as: "a shameless self-promoter who provoked the wrath of his former XXXXXXXXXX colleagues in later years, for allegedly claiming credit for ideas which were not his." Another colleague said about him: "egotist who took credit for everything."

#5 Died in Dec. 2011 of congestive heart failure.



Why do perps tend to die of heart failure?



Edited by pufferfish (11/02/13 04:39 PM)

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#211366 - 03/17/08 11:08 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: pufferfish]
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1. Would be 100's y.o. now, so very likely dead.
2. Would be 90's y.o. now, so perhaps dead. Haven't been able to find a trace.

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#211997 - 03/20/08 11:09 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: LandOfShadow]
Chester Offline
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Loc: Long Island, NY
Gah! You guys got me to post!

1: Mom refuses to kill herself, so she's alive about 30 miles away.
2: Dr. Cohen, (the guy who managed to do all the boys sports physicals in Jr. High) last I saw of him was on TV with him being led out of his pediatrician's office in handcuffs about 10 years ago. I can only assume bad things happened to him.

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#219952 - 04/23/08 04:36 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Chester]
tazrad Offline
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Loc: FL USA
#1 In Grafton Correctional Institution in Ohio
http://www.drc.state.oh.us/OffenderSearch/Details.aspx?id=A182549
See here. Parole Hearing in 2 years


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#219987 - 04/23/08 07:01 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: tazrad]
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I honestly have no idea where my perps are, or if they're alive or dead, and that suits me down to the ground. They are nothing to me.

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#219988 - 04/23/08 07:07 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Hauser]
Denniss Offline
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DEAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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#220004 - 04/23/08 07:56 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Denniss]
OKIE MIKE Offline
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I believe that he died December 14 2003 in Houston TX. May you burn in hell
A good source in the US to find out is the Social Security Death Index.
All that You need is a name and an close age

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#220016 - 04/23/08 08:28 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: OKIE MIKE]
JustJeff Offline
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My perp is probably still alive as he's only one year younger/older(Not Sure) then me. if i see that dude around, i'm going to grab the nearest makeshift weapon and beat the living force out of him.

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#220098 - 04/24/08 01:21 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: JustJeff]
dark empathy Offline
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Loc: durham, north england
No idea, probably involved in bad things though, drugs, many unwanted kids, perhaps abusive partners, though could also be perfectly fine and happy for all I know. I don't even remember most of their names, and they wouldn't care or probably even understand what they did to me (they probably will have completely forgotten by now).

I really couldn't care less though sinse they don't matter.


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#220411 - 04/25/08 01:02 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: dark empathy]
USFbull Offline
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Loc: Florida
Still alive in Liverpool. High School dropout working manual jobs to stay off the dole. Living with his Mom and drowning himself in Pot and Alcohol.

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Neither fear nor courage saves us.
Unnatural vices Are fathered by our heroism.
Virtues Are forced upon us by our impudent crimes.
These tears are shaken from
the wrath-bearing tree.
~T.S. Eliot~

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#220427 - 04/25/08 01:40 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: JerrySan]
DanM Offline
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Loc: So. California
I am amazed at how many of us have had more than one abuser.

#1 - Last I heard he was married in lived in the general area.

#2 - Was convicted of sexual assault of two young boys from the school he taught at and was given 2 years probation. Last I read he was appealing conviction.

#3 - Was convicted of murder and executed.


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#220515 - 04/25/08 06:45 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: DanM]
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Registered: 08/01/07
Posts: 170
Loc: Cleveland, OH
I don't "have" an abuser or a perp - there was someone who did something bad to me and I don't take any ownership of him. I learned last week that he died in the 1980s.

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#220944 - 04/27/08 07:19 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Scoutvictim]
Power_water Offline
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Registered: 09/14/07
Posts: 45
Loc: Portland, OR, USA
first perp a local Las Vegas religious leader is presumed dead
from age. Identity unknown.

second perp was a 19 year old Runaway woman recovering drug user, who also had an affair with my Dad while staying at our home to be rehabilited. Name Debbie. I've heard say that after a drunken call to our house <which I answered> she turned her life around, got married and currently has an upstanding family, complete with children. I want to know where she is now.

Last perp was a very old inventor,scientist,businessman. I heard one of his inventions improved the film projection industry. he used two big strong mentaly challanged young men to rape and strangle me repeatedly, and did various strange sexcult things to me, involving bathing me in blood, forced contact with a corpse girl, and solemn prayers, oaths and blessings. Name or Alias was John Campbell. I want to know more about him and meet other victims. he was an unconventional 'deviant' scientist, working on antigravity

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#221302 - 04/29/08 02:42 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Power_water]
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Registered: 04/04/08
Posts: 48
Loc: far, far away

#1 Male- Don't know where he is but must be 75 now. Probably still molesting little kids somewhere. Hope he's suffering.

#2 Female - she has to be at least 60, hope shes dead.


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#221308 - 04/29/08 03:39 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Magoo]
alexey Offline
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The crowd of three. Their fate is unknown to me. I am afraid they abused more kids.

I don't even know how to find them, and I don't feel comfortable walking in the village and asking.

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#221505 - 04/29/08 05:03 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Hauser]
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Registered: 04/29/08
Posts: 11
My prep were in their 50's and 60's. So I think most of them are dead now.


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#367579 - 08/06/11 09:02 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: JerrySan]
SamV Offline
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Loc: Talladega, Alabama, USA
Mine is out of my life, on purpose. I moved 900 miles away from them, and I am getting better and stronger everyday.

1)The two physical abusers, Wisconsin
2)The oldest sister, incest sexual abuse, somewhere in Wisconsin
3)A complete stranger, a man that fondled me, drunk in a ditch in Wisconsin, most likely.

May they find recovery, may they quell their demons, may they find the power to tell me they were wrong.

To the survivors of this heinous act:
1)My dear sister T**e, you were hurt by a man your parents trusted, you were simply imitating, I believe you are hurt.
2)My dear sister, N**e, may you rest in peace, having passed in a drunken car accident, in chaos over the abuse, I love you.
3)My dear brother T**m, may you find the courage to look inside, take the hand of that terrified little boy, and nurture him to health and safety.

S



Edited by sasuva (08/06/11 09:13 PM)
Edit Reason: I should remember the survivors, damn the perps..
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#367580 - 08/06/11 09:11 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: SamV]
Anthony39 Offline
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Registered: 02/15/07
Posts: 345
Loc: Montreal, Canada
perp #1 Been dead for 10 years.
perp #2 I don't know, in his 70's if still alive.

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#367587 - 08/07/11 12:15 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Anthony39]
Kaene Offline


Registered: 07/04/11
Posts: 40
Loc: Ausin, TX
Perp 1: He is currently in a mental institution. I heard a few years ago that he was confronted by the police while running around a nature park in the buff. Didn't suprise me, I knew that kid was seriously disturbed even before the abuse started.

Perp 2: I just recently denied a facebook friend request from him. Last I heard he was suffering from multiple addictions and was down and out in my home town. I find it really hard to hate him because I know that P3 probably abused him before they started on me.

Perp 3: Can't remember his name, I can see his face, but search as I can through old yearbooks and stuff I've never been able to find him. Can't say that I really want to find him anyway.

Perp 4: My brother is living in Las Vegas now and is a succesful manager of a warehouse. I love my brother and I'm glad he's doing well, but at the same time it makes me really bitter. Where does he get off being so able to cope and deal with life, when I'm this shattered, worthless piece of crap!?

Perp 5: Never saw him before, never saw him since. This one rips me up inside. After years of reading about violent crime, I know that he was a rapist who was quickly escalating in the violence department. How many people has he killed because I wasn't strong enough to speak out. I know it's not my fault, but then again, why do I feel so sick about it?

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#445979 - 08/30/13 04:34 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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Registered: 10/15/12
Posts: 918
Loc: New York

Since someone else brought back the "single characteristic" thread, I figure this could use a little more access for newer members too. So....


Assisted living facility in Hingham, MA, though at 92 hopefully not there much longer. His daughter still lives in the house that he lived in the year he abused me.
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#445981 - 08/30/13 05:16 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
DavoSwim Offline
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Registered: 02/06/13
Posts: 336
Loc: Iowa, USA
Two of my four abusers are dead. The other two I've lost track of. I've tried googling them and got no results

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#445983 - 08/30/13 05:51 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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Registered: 08/22/13
Posts: 158
Loc: Minnesota
1] Unknown. Nationally famous camp so he could be anywhere. He'd be in his early 40's.
2] ? He'd be about 50+. Hopefully in prison/treatment somewhere.
3] Works in publishing back in our hometown in Ohio, late 30's.
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#445985 - 08/30/13 06:05 PM ! [Re: Still]
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Registered: 03/25/12
Posts: 2217
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Edited by Smalltown80sBoy (02/28/14 09:35 PM)

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#446005 - 08/30/13 09:18 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
Suwanee Offline
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Registered: 10/30/12
Posts: 758
Loc: Southeast USA
I'd like to know.

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#446023 - 08/30/13 11:17 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
Rich1967 Offline
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Registered: 07/17/13
Posts: 289
Loc: PA
I would love to give the street address but then that would mean all of my previous posts about not hating him would be bullshit…

391 Gran… FL east coast… and probably in a bed next to my mom as I write this. I've wanted to ask her how she feels about the fact that we've both had sex with the same man.

It doesn't count if I'm expressing it here. Besides, it's more anger than hatred and I'm allowed to be angry.

I liked the underwear thread better :-)
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#446052 - 08/31/13 02:13 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
George Offline
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Registered: 01/29/01
Posts: 122
Loc: NY metro
I heard almost a year ago that my uncle (perp) had recently died, I knew it was inevitable as he was 78... I had hoped to get some kind of apology before the end, didn't happen. Not that I need it, it would've been nice. I had forgiven him years ago, not for his sake, but for mine. I last saw him at a wedding 18 years ago & avoided him like the plague, before that I was 13. What a lonely end it must have been for him, I told enough people in the family about him in 1999(even the cops), that everyone knew what he was, even his own kids.

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#446183 - 09/02/13 01:00 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
Still Offline
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Registered: 02/16/07
Posts: 6602
Loc: FEMA Region 1
wrong thread


Edited by Still (09/02/13 01:00 AM)
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#446187 - 09/02/13 02:03 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
trytry Offline
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Registered: 02/13/13
Posts: 36
Loc: Wisconsin
Last I heard he got married and may have moved to a nearby city a few years ago. He used to live a few houses from where I'm living now, still triggering every time I have to drive by it.

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#446267 - 09/02/13 10:28 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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Registered: 09/02/11
Posts: 133
Loc: California
My perps are both dead.

My dad killed himself when I was seventeen, and my mom died from alcoholism and emphysema when I was thirty-one.
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#446318 - 09/03/13 12:29 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
Publius Offline
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Registered: 03/13/12
Posts: 425
Loc: OH
He lives in Fort Wayne Indiana and last I heard he sells medical supplies although I am not positive he still does it. A long while back I checked up to see if he had been brought up on any charges or suspicion of guilt related to child sex abuse but found nothing. His father was his perp and I was one of the kids he acted out upon. My fear is he never stopped.
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#452077 - 10/31/13 07:18 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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Registered: 07/14/12
Posts: 440
Loc: USA
One is dead, the others I don't know about.
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#452175 - 11/01/13 07:56 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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Registered: 01/22/13
Posts: 767
Loc: upper south
Of my three, none have died. The only casualty was Little Me. I haven't seen #1 since my wife died...accidentally met him at the family plots... almost 10 yrs. ...#2 for approximately 20 yrs... and #3.. for over a year. But my mother did ask me to visit the #1 just two weeks ago because he has been gravely ill.... LOL... I didn't because I DON'T WANT TO...
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#463152 - 03/25/14 03:15 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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Registered: 06/16/11
Posts: 300
dead and living happily in jail and a family member who ihave reconnected with and forgiven. we now have a healthy relationship as brother.
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#472612 - 11/17/14 07:24 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3545
Loc: O Kanada
1) the seductress: dead from heroin overdose.
2) the rapist: died of cancer in jail.
3) the molestor: missing person.

the rest don't matter and have been forgotten.

i won't even bother mentioning the nonsexual abusers in my childhood.
far too many to register or remember.
when i was little, i had no idea i was being "abused".
it was my reality and it was normal to me.
i was only a child, didn't know i was wild.

all the danger and drama gave me a trauma.
abandoned. unwanted. ridiculed. taunted.
punished. neglected. insulted. rejected.
betrayed. disconnected. not loved and protected.
i was dumped in the dust which destroyed all my trust.
left in the lurch and condemned by the church.
ignored by the system, i couldn't resist them.
the hurt and the violence drove me to silence.
feeling mad all the time made me get into crime.
not enough hugs so i did lots of drugs.
too much verbal abuse has shortened my fuse.
exposure to anger has put me in danger.
my emotional state complicated by hate.
now i'm going insane from the spiritual pain.

where are they now?
the anonymous users,
abusers and losers that corrupted my youth?
gone and good riddance.
don't know where. i don't care.
and that's the simple truth.
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#472620 - 11/17/14 12:06 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
lostc Offline


Registered: 08/12/14
Posts: 46
1st person: happy clappy religious "do-gooder", successful. about to get married.
2nd person: happy, carefree and content. in a long term relationship.
me: never had a proper job, no friends or relationships at all for years, severe social phobia/depression and apparently ptsd, struggling to stay alive.

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#472628 - 11/17/14 05:06 PM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
Nothing Man Offline
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Registered: 04/10/14
Posts: 137
Loc: Ohio
The rapist: now a successful practicing audiologist in San Francisco.
The molester: now dead, and she never got to know my children, her grandchildren. She was also the non-sexual, physical mental and verbal abuser.
The adult abuser: don't know, don't care.
Me? a washed up alcoholic with a menial, low paying job, few friends, ptsd and major depression, and a serious lack of self esteem.

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#472647 - 11/18/14 08:26 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
atari_kid86 Offline
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Registered: 02/23/10
Posts: 130
Loc: Michigan
1. Works at a building supply store in hometown. Never finished high school.

2. Works for an electronic store in town nearby hometown.

3. Lives in Indianapolis, with my mom. He's as pitiful as ever. His MS is slowly killing him. Don't care beyond that.

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#472648 - 11/18/14 09:10 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
tbkkfile Offline


Registered: 09/16/13
Posts: 283
Loc: Surrey, United Kingdom
One died alone and in pain, years of drinking finally killed him - that did bring a smile to my face
I have no idea about the other 4
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#472649 - 11/18/14 09:23 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3513
Loc: somewhere in Africa
1. step-dad - dead

2. bully gang leader - retired and living in the same town where it happened in mid-west.

3. bully side-kick - working in a western state

4. bully #3 - not a clue

5. jr. scout leader - retired and living in a small town near the scene of the crime in mid-west

6. "best friend" who pimped me to the bullies - living and working as a doctor in mid-west near the origin

7. stranger in the tailor shop fitting room - not a clue

Lee
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#472650 - 11/18/14 09:25 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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Registered: 08/31/11
Posts: 1782
Priest--retired and lives in own home and I have sat in front of his home. Two years since last visit and I have no desire to see him or the house again. He was being prayed for recently at a local parish--not sure the reason. He needs all the prayers he can get.

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#472683 - 11/19/14 07:44 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
motmcd Offline


Registered: 08/15/12
Posts: 23
Loc: PA
Living in his home town with his reputation protected and unscathed because my diocese continues to conceal his name.


Edited by motmcd (11/19/14 07:46 AM)

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#472684 - 11/19/14 08:10 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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Registered: 02/20/09
Posts: 302
Loc: Orchidland Big Island Hawaii
Randy S Kraft; Caught with a dead Marine May 14th 1983
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Randy_Steven_Kraft

Me...living on Big Island Hawaii..The Healing Isle.
Unkl Sammy sends me shut-up $$$ each month because of what I survive now and then.
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#472685 - 11/19/14 10:04 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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Registered: 11/26/11
Posts: 109
Loc: Hamilton, ON Canada
First abuser - was convicted of abusing other children and sent to jail, but would've finished his sentence and been released in 2012 or 2013 at the latest. No idea what became of him or where he is now.

Second abuser - had brain cancer and died about 10 years ago.
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#472707 - 11/20/14 09:57 AM Re: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? [Re: Still]
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Registered: 05/07/11
Posts: 1736
Loc: Johannesburg South Africa
All of mine, don't know don't care, but I sure hope they are crapping themselves every-time I'm on the news talking about this, praying that I will not drop their names publicly, LOL the Power is Mine I tell you MINE ...Bwhahahahaha
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