That's a problem many guys have on this site: hearing things they were not prepared for and wondering how to react. Are they really true? Are they well-intended? What can I do now?
When I had such questions I talked to guys I trusted, especially a few of the moderators. What I learned was that this is all part of recovery. We discover so many things about ourselves, and with time we see that while not all these discoveries suited us, they are all part of our progress. I think the most important thing to remember here is that when you feel ambushed or taken by surprise, don't sit alone and isolated with your feelings. Take it to someone and talk about if if you can.
Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me. (Woody Guthrie)