Welcome and what a good post. When your lives have been turned upside down and the simple things go missing, it is very sad. It happened to my b/f and I where we just felt a terrible disconnect for several weeks, months even, but we kept pushing through it. When we finally acknowledged the loss, it was the saddest day, but it was good too. We actually agreed to make the effort to be together, to very specifically notice each other and what we were or weren't doing since it wasn't coming easy anymore. Before either one of us noticed it, we weren't making the effort anymore, it just happened. To be honest, just answering this post has made me see that it's been a long time since I had to work at it which has put a smile on my face. Thank you!
awakening - What a great post! I would add a new #4 which is simple physical closeness - hand holding, sitting close on the couch, a hug, a passing kiss, a shoulder rub.....
You have skipped a whole range of physical intimacy that does not involve sex!
If you fall down 10 times, Stand up 11.