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#208277 - 03/01/08 04:19 PM evolution of relationships
markgreyblue Offline
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Registered: 12/19/03
Posts: 5400
Loc: Pasadena, CA
I just had a very helpful talk about relationships with a friend I met here on the site.
I don't want to post the yahoo chat but I do know that since opening up about it with him,
my sense of relationships for serious personal relationships has matured.

I have been completely honest with this man about my fear
and desires and unhappiness too. I am coming to understand
what to expect in a significant relationship while trying my best to not
mislead people while I am dating but also respecting
what I am experiencing considering all
the factors of what bothers me & what doesn't.

I talked about settling down, he mentioned how there
are issues of excitement vs security and a lot of other things.

I feel in some senses he's the perfect sounding board since he is married (gay married in Canada.)

It's been a great solace to talk to him and I think it's a valuable thing to talk about here in this forum.

Male to Male dating relationships and how we view them.

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#209240 - 03/06/08 10:55 PM Re: evolution of relationships [Re: markgreyblue]
markgreyblue Offline
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Registered: 12/19/03
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Loc: Pasadena, CA
I was talking to a friend from High School
I had told her I sort of wanted to give up on dating.
She voiced concern that if you don't settle down with someone
you may end up promiscuous and that is not safe.

It's true in a sense, I can see a lot of guys who give up
on a home life -and become very frisky - but there's no pigeon holing everyone.

All I know is I would like to settle down,
I would like to be promiscuous with one person for the rest of my life! lol

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#209242 - 03/06/08 11:19 PM Re: evolution of relationships [Re: markgreyblue]
Freedom49 Offline
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Registered: 12/30/07
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Loc: Washington State
mark I hear you. It is not good to be alone. Especially for survivors. We need others to help us stay grounded in reality and call us on our stuff if we start getting weird. I think it would be good for you to start dating. Be careful though. If you want some one of quality go looking where quality people hang out if you get my drift. Also be careful we have a tendency to seek out people with perp like qualities. I hate to say that but I have seen that a lot and not just male either. You deserve a guy who will be good balance for you. I hope I am making sense here. Any way I say go for it but go where the good ones can be found.

Take care of you! Don't look for someone else that will do that for you. You will do great.


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#209248 - 03/06/08 11:59 PM Re: evolution of relationships [Re: Freedom49]
markgreyblue Offline
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Thanks Roger!

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#209254 - 03/07/08 01:23 AM Re: evolution of relationships [Re: markgreyblue]
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Registered: 06/04/07
Posts: 434
Loc: St. Louis, Missouri
Mark...

wow..... a great topic.... I am going to collect some thoughts and post later. it's late tonight and I am tired.

but watch for a "great" response soon. LOL \:D

boy..... did I mention I'm modest. LMAO \:D

OK....

Luv ya,
Carl

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Happiness is like peeing your pants; Everyone can see it, but only YOU feel the warmth.

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