Yeah, I'm still around. I've just been busy. On some levels, things with my husband are so improved. It's been rough for his family though, not speaking to the abuser anymore after his family was told. And some extended family members who were told of the abuse feel in the middle.
I still can't help feeling sorry for the abuser and my SIL thinks I am nuts for thinking this. It's not that I want to invite him over, but we are fairly certain that he was a victim of abuse himself. I just hope he gets over his denial and finds help for himself. I wonder if he told his wife the true reason why all of his family here no longer speaks to him.
Still no therapy for spouse, but at least he reads about it. At this point, I think that's as good as it's gonna get. He has taken a lot of what he's read to heart and I can see a real marked difference in not only his behavior but his self-esteem.
Hope healing and peace to each of you,
I was silent as a child, and silenced as a young woman; I am taking my lumps and bumps for being a big mouth, now, but usually from those whose opinion I don't respect. - Sandra Cisneros