I want to welcome you to MS, I'm sorry you need this place, but I do hope you find it helpful.
Your question about telling is a very common concern. Many guys here have waited a lot longer than you to disclose. (myself it was 11 years before I told anyone) You took a "brave" stand at 12. (yeah I know...native american.... brave.... bad pun) LOL I do hope you will read a few other posts about telling your story. It can be a very freeing feeling after you tell, but it should be done on your own terms. Please don't feel pressured by anyone.
Take your time and reveal what you want to whoever you feel is willing to support you. As you know, just because someone is family, doesn't mean they will understand. As time passes you will begin to realize who you will be able to talk to.
Again welcome to MS, you have found a great group of guys who will help and support you. All you have to do is ask, and many will come running to help.
I hope you will stick around,
Shawn and Ben will always be in my heart....
Happiness is like peeing your pants; Everyone can see it, but only YOU feel the warmth.
Peebles, Ohio WOR alumni, Oct. 2007