The basic issue here is that we are a community dedicated to facilitating the recovery of men and boys from childhood sexual abuse. Our guidelines are formulated with that aim in mind, and our policy is to ask guys to talk about triggery topics such as religion/atheism in terms of what they think and feel and to avoid criticisms presented as fact rather than opinion.
For example, a statement like "men of faith are idiots" will not be allowed under any circumstances, but nor will similar statements about atheists. Which (if either) of these two viewpoints is correct is not our concern as moderators; the problem is that such statements invite not reasonable discussion about abuse issues but bitter arguments that compound the feeling of emotional turmoil that already troubles many guys coming here. This is not something we can encourage.
Entirely different, however, would be a statement like this: "I have never been able to understand how guys who are sensible in every other way could ever become religious." This statement is different because it allows for a reasonable reply and a dialog among differing points of view.
Also please bear in mind that this site cannot be made a venue for an endless battle over the merits or faults in either religion or atheism as such. There are plenty of sites for that elsewhere. Here our interest is in how various forms of religion or religious expression, including a rejection of religious expression, has figured in our abuse issues in the past and in our recovery in the present. For the record, your statement:
i was as much hurt by the shame and fear of Christianity as i was by my abuse and ... the two re-enforced each other
strikes me as perfectly okay as it stands. But you are likely to receive responses suggesting that the shame and fear came not from Christianity but from those falsely claiming to speak and act in its name, and you would have to respect the right of other guys to say that, just as you have the right to state your side of the issue.
By way of general information to all those interested in this topic, please bear in mind the following:
* Providing a trigger warning does not release a user from following forum guidelines.
* Statements like "I need to say this for my healing" do not release a user from following forum guidelines.
* If you feel you have been personally attacked do not respond in kind. Take the issue to a moderator and we will look into it for you. That's why we are here.
* The ModTeam consists almost entirely of survivors like yourselves who have their own abuse issues, families, jobs, worries, etc., and we are spread out over 11 time zones around the world. We cannot promise we will get things right every time or from the very first moment, but we do keep working at it.
I cannot overstress the fact that this site is not a venue for general campaigns on other subjects, however presented. Those who feel the need to speak out on such matters of course have the right to do so, and the opportunities for that are endless in cyberspace. But here it should be anticipated that the need for guys to be able to talk about their abuse issues in an atmosphere of safety and brotherhood will take precedence.