Do I dwell on things that have happened in the past? Leaving the door cracked,but not closing it all the way?

Dear Anon,

The things from past stay fetid unless you open the door to let in some fresh air and let the stink out. You will see in these forums that there are various ways to deal with the evils of the past so that you do not have to dwell alone but can share with others who know the pain and the ultimate freedom that awaits. You have only to open the door...


froggy

Anon,

In fact, our healing path includes looking back. Not just leaving the door open a crack, but opening it wide and embracing the truth of how we felt then and how we feel now. Those feelings are there, whether we want to acknowledge them or not. Is there any other place to start?

So dwelling on it is something we need to do, up to a point. Sooner or later we see that staying in the past isn't helping us any longer; then it's time to leave. But for a time, yes, we have to go back and face the truth. Or at least, that was my experience.

Much love,
Larry