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#204463 - 02/09/08 10:35 PM Re: "People Pleasers" [Re: sabata]
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please accept my appolgies-as i am not saying there is anything wrong with being a auto mechanic----------------just when you say mechanic-that is sucjh a brod sepectrom-----------------and i know i cant spell-------------------------


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#204503 - 02/10/08 08:00 AM Re: "People Pleasers" *DELETED* [Re: Hauser]
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#204510 - 02/10/08 09:19 AM Re: "People Pleasers" [Re: awakening]
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Wow, it is like you took the thoughts right out of my head. I know exactly what you are feeling. I have also spent the majority of my life as a "People Pleaser". Everything I did was to make others happy. I always sacrificed what was good for me so I would make others happy. It was as if I didn't deserve to to be happy or worthy of fulfillment. I have tried to reverse this and take more control of my life. I know it can be done, since I have made some improvements. Hang in there, things will get better for all of us is we keep trying.

Dan


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#204514 - 02/10/08 09:57 AM Re: "People Pleasers" [Re: DanM]
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umm

"people pleasing"

isn't it about approval or feeling accepted or in control?

aren't most of our posts regardless of the "theme" wanting similar things?

including THIS thread?

hmm



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#204516 - 02/10/08 10:00 AM Re: "People Pleasers" [Re: ineffable]
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it took me a long time to be able st say NO-------------and when i finally was able to say NO-----------it was a good feeling---------------that i could say NO--------------NO__NO__NO___NO_NO_NO_------------------that felt good--------------------thanks-------------------------steve


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#206542 - 02/21/08 03:20 AM Re: "People Pleasers" [Re: sabata]
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Hi,

I agree with Awakening: the People-Pleaser route is very overrated, because anyone who works too hard at pleasing other people will probably also have an inner taskmaster who's never satisfied. I don't think my parents pushed me much to achieve. They didn't have to. I saw people around me who did better, and I became frustrated by my own lack of achievement.
Eventually, I finished college and have taken jobs that don't challenge me much since that time. But that doesn't stop me from hearing the voices from friends and family saying I should do better, have a better job, make more money, get married, whatever....
I may not have a lot of answers but I know I can't put time frames on anything I do any more. I may not do much right, but I will always do something right, enough to never give up.

Ed


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#206639 - 02/21/08 06:44 PM Re: "People Pleasers" [Re: awakening]
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Originally Posted By: awakening
Huaser,
I abuse myself by working and keeping myself so busy that I stopped feeling - I became numb. I woke up one day and relized that while everyone around me may be 'pleased' by me, I wasn't. I have been letting down myself for most of my life. I became a human doing rather than a human being.
awakening


Yup. That was me. Usually most people would feel great when they got off work. "Ahh, a little R&R". For me, it was "ah sh-t! here comes the anxiety, depression, and lonliness that I put off feeling for the last 8 hours I spent working my butt off.... Time to go get a six pack. LOL". Since then, I have learned to stop and relax a bit more when at work. I feel much better at the end of the day.

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