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#202055 - 01/28/08 02:03 PM another bump in the road
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Edited by MarkK (04/16/08 02:12 PM)

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#202464 - 01/29/08 11:51 PM Re: another bump in the road [Re: MarkK]
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oh believe IT Mark... i MUST share that this month from beginning to NOW i have TRUE~ly discovered i AM in what i call my F.A.B. SELF... & i "get" all in YOUr wanderFULL poem because i have been there...

always dream~~~dare~~~dive, john :):):)

you'll NEVER walk alone!!! :):):)


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#202846 - 01/31/08 03:22 PM Re: another bump in the road [Re: John Ireland]
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Mark,

I'll just say that in my own case I think that perhaps the real breakthrough came when I could no longer deny that others saw far more in me than I did. I finally had to consider seriously the possibility that the bad feelings I had about being me were wrong.

What made this especially scary was that I had so many bad feelings about myself; if one was wrong, maybe all were wrong. Was I to reject everything I thought about being me? Where would that leave me? I didn't know, and that was the real risk, I guess.

We just have to be willing to take the risks, Mark, or at least that's what my experience tells me. I will say, though, that it was a lot easier to do that with the support I received here.

Much love,
Larry

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As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
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#203438 - 02/03/08 11:11 PM Re: another bump in the road [Re: roadrunner]
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and when i re-learn about myself
when i discover the "real me"
what do i do when i don't like what i find????

sigh

willing to take risks
alone
...
not exactly the best offer i've ever heard

M


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#203455 - 02/04/08 01:54 AM Re: another bump in the road [Re: MarkK]
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& i toooooooo am willing to take risks alone :):):)

i HAVE re~discovered the "real me"... i call this my F.A.B. SELF... & it is surreal to say the least...

& MarkK...when YOU don't like what YOU find YOU will KNOW what to do when in YOur F.A.B. SELF :):):)

you'll NEVER walk alone, john :):):)


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#203553 - 02/04/08 05:24 PM Re: another bump in the road [Re: John Ireland]
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Originally Posted By: John Ireland
you'll NEVER walk alone

well, it's a nice thought.

thanx, John.

m


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#203635 - 02/05/08 04:18 AM Re: another bump in the road [Re: MarkK]
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Mark,

Originally Posted By: MarkK
and when i re-learn about myself
when i discover the "real me"
what do i do when i don't like what i find????


I think all of us discover things we don't like about ourselves, but what counts is that what we are discovering is real - it's the "me" that's been there all along. And the things we don't like are things we can work on.

Quote:
willing to take risks
alone
...
not exactly the best offer i've ever heard


True, but it's the only genuine offer on the table. Or at least that's been my experience.

Much love,
Larry

_________________________
Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#203934 - 02/06/08 10:04 PM Re: another bump in the road [Re: roadrunner]
MarkK Offline
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Originally Posted By: roadrunner
True, but it's the only genuine offer on the table.

somehow that's not the most encouraging news i've ever heard.


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#204023 - 02/07/08 05:28 PM Re: another bump in the road [Re: MarkK]
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"but since i can't accept myself
how can i be expected to believe it
when someone else says they accept me"

this may be confusing but...

it was through someone else's acceptance
of my not being able
to accept myself that
i came to believe
someone else's acceptance of me

i felt "felt" & accepted

hope this helps






Edited by ineffable (02/07/08 05:30 PM)
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#204027 - 02/07/08 05:55 PM Re: another bump in the road [Re: ineffable]
MarkK Offline
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it does, some.
it starts with me believing that they accept me
or trusting that they do

believing them or trusting them

not easy

... though i have one friend i am starting to believe ...


M


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