Unfortunately, there are therapists out there who should never be working with survivors of sexual abuse. If you felt like therapy was pulling you into a reliving of the abuse, that's terrible and a sign that the T did not know what he was doing. It was a good thing you got out of that situation.
A T experienced with CSA issues will try to set you at ease and help you through your issues with the least new pain and trauma. He/she will also try to get to know you first and set you at ease. It's important to do that, so you will feel able to communicate with the T when you feel something is going wrong. That clearly didn't happen the first time around.
Have you seen Ken Singer's article here
on the site about choosing a therapist? He has lots of good ideas and if you follow his suggestions you will be able to identify a T who can really help you.