"Our word survive comes from the Latin word 'supervivere.' It literally means 'to live above or beyond.' To survive means to keep alive against the odds." (p 17)
"The fact that you are a survivor is worthy of commendation. You have done what seemed impossible. You have survived what seemed unbearable. Hold your head up."
"On the one hand, to be a survivor is to rise above the difficulty, to move on in spite of the pain, to defy the odds. On the other hand, it means living a life that has been profoundly affected by an atrocity. You develop certain thinkiing patterns to live with the abuse. You create coping mechanisms to manage the horror of it all. The abuse shapes you. Abuse results in a life lived in reaction to, in protection against, in defiance of, a horror you would like to forget."
"The fact that you are a survivor also means that unless you face the horror of the abuse and its resulting lies and strategies for living, your life will continue to be directed by that which you most fear and hate. Having endured the unendurable, you can once again do what seems impossible. You can face the darkness of the abuse, the despair it has produced, and watch the light slowly dawn in places you never wanted to revisit." (pp 19,20)
from "On the Threshold of Hope: Opening the Door to Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse" by Diane
Mandt Langberg, Ph.D., 1999.
Just started what holds promise of being a very good book: for survivors as well as their families & friends, and those who want to help other survivors.
Available of course at Amazon.com through the MS bookstore.