.

oh believe IT Mark... i MUST share that this month from beginning to NOW i have TRUE~ly discovered i AM in what i call my F.A.B. SELF... & i "get" all in YOUr wanderFULL poem because i have been there...

always dream~~~dare~~~dive, john :):):)

you'll NEVER walk alone!!! :):):)

Mark,

I'll just say that in my own case I think that perhaps the real breakthrough came when I could no longer deny that others saw far more in me than I did. I finally had to consider seriously the possibility that the bad feelings I had about being me were wrong.

What made this especially scary was that I had so many bad feelings about myself; if one was wrong, maybe all were wrong. Was I to reject everything I thought about being me? Where would that leave me? I didn't know, and that was the real risk, I guess.

We just have to be willing to take the risks, Mark, or at least that's what my experience tells me. I will say, though, that it was a lot easier to do that with the support I received here.

Much love,
Larry

and when i re-learn about myself
when i discover the "real me"
what do i do when i don't like what i find????

sigh

willing to take risks
alone
...
not exactly the best offer i've ever heard

M

& i toooooooo am willing to take risks alone :):):)

i HAVE re~discovered the "real me"... i call this my F.A.B. SELF... & it is surreal to say the least...

& MarkK...when YOU don't like what YOU find YOU will KNOW what to do when in YOur F.A.B. SELF :):):)

you'll NEVER walk alone, john :):):)

well, it's a nice thought.

thanx, John.

m

Mark,



I think all of us discover things we don't like about ourselves, but what counts is that what we are discovering is real - it's the "me" that's been there all along. And the things we don't like are things we can work on.



True, but it's the only genuine offer on the table. Or at least that's been my experience.

Much love,
Larry

somehow that's not the most encouraging news i've ever heard.

"but since i can't accept myself
how can i be expected to believe it
when someone else says they accept me"

this may be confusing but...

it was through someone else's acceptance
of my not being able
to accept myself that
i came to believe
someone else's acceptance of me

i felt "felt" & accepted

hope this helps

it does, some.
it starts with me believing that they accept me
or trusting that they do

believing them or trusting them

not easy

... though i have one friend i am starting to believe ...


M

Hey M

believing or trusting one is accepted is no easier
than revealing oneself
to be accepted believed or trusted in
you're halfway home & your goodness is a given
that can never
BE taken
away

(being poetic cuz heck this is the poetry section... lol)

halfway home means halfway ... somewhere else

M

... and yes, i see the glass half-gone ...

yw m... and it has more meaning than YOU know... one step forward as you dream~~~dare~~~dive, john :):):)

& yep... you'll NEVER walk alone!!! i guarantee this!!! :):):)

Mark,



I think this is one of the really big challenges we face - learning to focus on what there is to recover and restore than than what has been lost. That doesn't mean we dismiss the importance of the loss, just that we recognize the past can't be changed or redone and try to focus on what we can do now and tomorrow, and the day after that ....

Much love,
Larry