I am reading this through again, and responding again, because *I* need it right now. And I think when you come back here online again Andrei, you need to see your own words again, and realize what an amazing person you truly are.

(((((((((((Andrei))))))))))))))))

leosha

Andrei,

We talked the other night and I asked if I could use your post in a forum I belong to. You agreed. I wanted everyone to see how much pain someone can be in, yet still find something positive in all of it. Everybody is always "why me?" But for the first time, I've never seen anyone write "Why Not Me?"

You have such a beautiful heart and soul Andrei. I hope you know that. There are so many of us here that see it. You have such a gentle way about you. You have a way of thinking that is so innocent, yet so wise.

Thank you again for posting this and sharing it with me.

Shawn.

This needs to be read and understood by some people here.

Leosha, how I agree with you!

Andrei
you quote a philosopher, and you write as one yourself.
With a philosophy such as the one you wrote, you have a wonderful future ahead of you.
Thank you so much for sharing that with us all.

Dave

Sorry if it offend anyone that I 'bump' this post again. I searched it because I needed to read it, to think on the thoughts in here. But I think the words and wisdom are worth reading again, or may be worth it to new people also.

Leosha

Leosha,

Thanks for "bumping" up Andrei's post. We all need to reread it at times. The newer guys need to read it, too, for the first time. I keep a copy of "Why Not Me?" in my desk at work whenever I am feeling down. It certainly puts things in perspective for me, although I can no longer claim the part about being young. LOL

Another good post to read is a more recent one. It can be found in the Public Forum Male Survivor section. It is a response to Markw under the title "Rough Time". Bobby wrote it to Mark, but I think it fits a lot of us here at Male Survivor.

Bumping for a friend. It taken a lot of looking though!

VN

Visha,

Thanks so much for doing this. I had never seen Andrei's post, and it's beautiful. So much to think about, and in such a positive way. Right now I think it's especially important to look at things in this way.

Much love,
Larry

Thank you Larry. I write this post when I first had cancer, the first time, and I was in the world of 'why me' and 'it's not fairs'. Those questions, they may be valid. But they are not helpful. I learned from that, and I hope to try to stay away from that thinking now. Sometime I do 'slip' into it, and sometime even for large blocks of time. But I realize, to think as that do not help me, and I have to drop it to find my happiness again. I much prefer that, and I am only one who can be responsible for it. So I try.

Andrei

Hi,

I'm amazed and inspired by your positive outlook, Andrei. If more people had your attitude, maybe the suffering that comes to so many would be more bearable. Thanks for writing what you did. It helps many of us, more than you know.

Ed